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writes:Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for one year now,I have known him for 4 years and things have been great until this point. We are both full time college students and we both have part time jobs so when the semester starts we probably only see each other 3 times a week. I find that kind of funny as well because we only stay a house away from each other lol So when the semester started he had began hanging out with his college buddies more often than usual. We do not go to the same school and I don't really know alot about his friend or half of their names because he jus refers to them as "friends" when I ask him who he is with. He recently joined a group at school(he stays joining groups smh!) and that's kewl but now I feel like he would rather hang out with this group than me. This week I have only seen him twice and one of those times was short because he was too busy socializing with his friends but he spends alot of time with his friends at school. So much time I really don't see a point of him hanging out with them outside of school because he is @ school majority of the day. So recently he lied to me about being at work just so he could hang out with his friends some more! I found out when I had called his job to see if he had made it to work safely because I didn't give him a ride and one of his co workers had told me that he's not scheduled to work tonight! I was infuriated because mainly he lied to me and when I had confronted him about it he claimed that he didn't want me to feel like he was spending more time with his friends than me. I still didn't think that was a good reason to lie to me and some of my trust for him has gone out the window smh. I mean I don't nag or complain when he does hang out with friends.I really don't know what to do anymore in this matter because I feel like I shouldn't have to come second place or be lied to over some "friends" n I was there for him before these people came in the picture.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 October 2012):
 P.S. Is it possible that his "friends" always have a refrigerator-full of beer on-hand in their apartment.... and you DON'T????? Maybe THAT has something to do with it....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 October 2012):
There can be ONLY ONE CLEAR "answer" to your query...
He's gay....
Or, he has a bunch of guys that he prefers hanging out with them, rather than you....
Or, he has one or more lady friends who he prefers hanging out with (them), rather than you.....
I guess that's three choices, isn't it. Oh well.... I TRIED to offer useful advice.... This won't be the first time that I didn't succeed!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 October 2012):
 I guess the answer you want to know is, how important are you in his life. He stopped acting like a boyfriend, so you should ask him what changed and why he doesn't want to spend time with you anymore. You have to come here, instead of getting this answer from him, is a bad sign that he's hiding something. You have drifted apart so maybe you should ask him what to do, not us. Is he just delaying the inevitable or does he really think that downgrading you into a part time girlfriend is an acceptable thing to do?
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