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writes:Hi. I am 21 years old and my boyfriend of a year cheated on me with the girl that lives next door to him. And I moved away soon as I found out he was cheating and lying to me for a year, so I left. And people tell me he has been nothing but depressed and very unhappy when I left. I blocked him on Facebook then I unblocked him after my birthday came up.. and we talked and talked and wanted to make things work, but I was actually making things worse by always arguing with him everyday through Facebook and each time I called him, I would cry and talk about why he cheated on me and i didn't do anything. And he says he only done it once and would never do it again. But couple days ago, I started the aguement again and told him I hated him and he said he hates me too and he also asked me this question that I thought I would never ever hear. '' want to know my other secret?'' That just broke my heart into a million pieces and I kept telling him I hated him for hurting me and for almost letting him have my heart again. And he kept saying he wanted to play along when I argued with him. I got so mad and blocked him and thanked him for showing me who he really was and he said '' No problem'' I hate him so much.. and all he said was the sweetest words when we were on the phone. He was depressed when I blocked him, cut his wrists, didn't eat, didn't go out. And I wanna know why he did this if he loved me as much as he said he did. I'm confused, I blocked him and a friend told me what he had written ''Once a cheater always a cheater. then why did i do it so many fucking times jk'' .. I believe that he did love me and he regrets it and he is just hiding his feelings towards others and he misses me. you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2012): Umm lady you're twenty one and old enough to see what you're doing is only leading to more heartache and strife.STOP TALKING TO HIM!!Why are you even giving him a chance to worm his way back into your affections and play mind games with you? He cheated for a year and now when he's caught he's all depressed and sorry? BULL!!And judging by some of the cruel sh*t he says, he's not sorry at all for what he did.LOVE is about RESPECT and HONESTY..even after the event right now he's still not respecting you and honestly lying for a year definitely no honesty left to salvage.Make a clean break, you don't live near him so you dont need to put up with his BS. Find someone new but first find yourself and get over this heartbreak because it's obvious the betrayal still weighs heavily on you.Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2012): "I believe that he did love me and he regrets it and he is just hiding his feelings towards others and he misses me. you think?"
I think you believe exactly what he wants you to believe.
PS: That's not necessarily a good thing, as CindyCares so eloquently explains. Believe what Cindy tells you, not what ex wants you to hear.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 October 2012):
 No. Honestly, I don't. I think what he regrets is having been caught red handed. Obviously it would have worked better for him if he could have kept his cake and eaten it too. A devoted gf, AND sexual options on the side.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (5 October 2012):
 Don't fall for his childish blackmail.... and let him stay DUMPED.....
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