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writes:This is kind of an odd post...for me anyway...But I have a tough time getting people to get comfortable around me. Everytime I meet someone for the 1st time, they are so cagey and quiet and stiff.They have a hard time making eye contact with me and I'm the kind that likes looking people in the eye when I speak to them.I finally spoke to a few of my closest friends and asked them what it was about that got people so 'squirmy'...and they told me I can get very intense when I talk to them. That I sometimes can be intimidating in the way I talk or look at people. I then asked them, "Intense how?!" but they couldn't really give me a concrete answer!I don't see it! I really don't!I'm serious-minded, yes, but not 'un-smiling', I don't scowl permanently, I don't frown and I like to joke around (though, I like a dry and cynical sense of humor)...But somehow people get uncomfortable. And I don't get why!Some people have even asked me, after meeting me, if I'm a scorpio! LOL! (and no, I'm a taurus)My best friend even told me last week that a guy had wanted to ask me out but after a couple of hours around me and my group of friends, he chickened out.WHAT THE HELL IS THAT ABOUT?!I don't like the idea of putting people ill at ease, so I'm really wondering if there's anything I can do to let people just...be, around me!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Are you, in fact, Mitt Romney.... and this submittal is your attempt to learn a bit more about "normal" and "the little" people, prior to this next Presidential debate????
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (8 October 2012):
Making excessive eye contact along with a dry, cynical, and/or sarcastic sense of humor will make most people uncomfortable. I'm not sure if they feel uncomfortable because they prefer light humor, or maybe they feel like you are deliberately trying to make them uncomfortable and staring at them to judge their reactions (i've known people who have done this...they are creepy).
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Do you have light colored eyes? Sometimes those can feel very piercing and intense even if the meaning behind a look isn't so intense. Some people also just make way too much eye contact and it can feel very creepy and intense even if they aren't meaning to be (especially if you have blue eyes). Maybe try to make a little less direct eye contact and see if that helps? Occasionally glance other places and see if that helps.
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