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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend recently told me that when he has sex with me, he's good for a couple minutes but then he has to start thinking about something else otherwise he will cum too soon. He said that it sucks that he can't be in the moment because he has to think about baseball and things like that.The other night, he went down on me and made me cum and then when he was inside me, couldn't last more than 2 minutes. He was trying to hold it but couldn't. He said I was so wet and it felt so good, he couldn't hold it. I feel sad that he can't be in the moment with me. Is this a normal thing for a guy? He's 30. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2012): If YOU are okay with 2 minutes, there is nothing to worry about.
We get our pleasure, even if it lasts 2 minutes. In fact, from a male's point of view, there is not a huge difference between 2 minutes and 10 minutes. We try to last longer so that our female partner can get her pleasure as well. But if she had her pleasure already, we prefer not to hold it and let go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): Most guys will only last between a few minutes and 10 to 15 minutes for actual penetration.
That's only the final act anyways. There should be plenty of foreplay and oral and massages and all that long before penetration happens. Penetration is the end game. The curtain call. The final goal. The Full-time siren. The game happens long before that.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (1 November 2012):
 If it's a problem, may I suggest that you two use a condom with desensitizing lube so you can have a longer time to enjoy intercourse?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2012): Yeah that's far too fast.
Three things he can do: First he could try tactical wanks. A wank a little while before intercourse by the time the foreplay is done he should be ready again. The drawbacks of that are timing though. Get it wrong and he may not be able to get a proper erection or it may be ineffective, worth trying out though if this is a major issue.
The second is he can just go down on you straight after sex, and have plenty of afterplay until his little soldier stands to attention again, given his age though that may take too long to be effective although I'm older than him and it works a charm.
The third and by far the best option though is male kegels, learning to control the muscles down there so he can hold it in and release at will. It takes a while and effort to train them but it's so worth it. They're nothing new and I learned how to do it by reading up about tantra sexuality. Learning mental discipline and strengthening those muscles can lead to long and intensely satisfying orgasms for us guys. It may sound fruity and crazy hippy stuff but it's actually very rewarding and I can release at will these days which is great for timing.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 November 2012):
 I believe that some men can/will extend intercourse by masturbating several hours before they are likely to engage in sex with their partner.....
Good luck.....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 November 2012):
 Yes,he's fast. Apparently, according, for instance, to a Sexual Wellbeing Global Survey by Durex, the averege time of intercourse - not including foreplay, so strictly penetration only- is around 7 minutes ).
At his age that should not be a big problem, though, I imagine that he can offer a repeat performance within a not too long period of time. The first time he stays in the moment, and the second, he'll think about baseball .
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