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writes:My husband, son and I went on holiday last month for 2 weeks to a family wedding abroad. Usually when we go away my mum has a spare set of keys and comes to check on the house etc... However this time she was coming with us so my friend and her partner offered to watch the house for us. I have known my friend for over 12 yrs so i had no reason not to trust her.We agreed for her to pop in once/ twice a week to check everything was ok (she had to drive past my house when she dropped her partner off at work so it wasn't out of her way). I also told my neighbours we were going away and my friend would be popping in.When we got back from holiday, it was quite late and we were all exhausted and hungry so I went to get the snacks that I had bought before we went away and noticed there was food missing- crisps, packets of biscuits, crackers etc... I didn't think much of it...The next day when I got up I noticed the spare key had been put through my letterbox- I thought this strange as my friend said she'd come see me and have a drink etc when I got back and she'd return the key... I tried calling her but there was no answer.When I started to sort the house out I noticed more things - our dvds seemed to have been moved around, our bin had rubbish in it (I emptied it before we left), the shower in the main bathroomhad been used as there was water marks in it (I left the house spotless before we left) I then noticed in the garden there were empty beer cans over the floor along with cigaret butts on the grass.I could only assume my friend and her partner has helped themselves to our food and drink whilst we were away however I then had more concerning news... My neighbour mentioned that she saw 3 cars in the drive 2 days before we were due back and there seemed to be a party going on in our back garden - the neighbour in the other side also confirmed the same thing and said there was music playing and people sat outside eating and drinking- she had assumed we had got home early and having a party!I was trying to get hold of my friend all day and when she finally picked up she was really hesitant to talk to me... and said she was busy and would call me later.. She never did!I told my husband what had happened and he was fuming! He wanted to drive to their house and speak to them but I urged him not to go. I drove there myself and could see her car was in the drive but nobody would answer the door ...Nothing has gone missing from house ( luckily we had locks on the bedroomDoors and I took the keys with us) and we have had the locks changed for the front and back door now as my husband was paranoid they had cut out key.I haven heard from my friend since and I'm angry and upset that they have done this (nobody else had access to our house)... I can only think this was her partners doing as she wouldn't take advantage of us... If they had asked to use my garden or replaced my food I wouldn't care but why take advantage of us?Any advice on what to do?
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (29 October 2012):
 It was clearly a huge lapse in judgement. I'm guessing her home is not as nice, hence the reason she decided to "play house" in your pad with her friends to "pretend" this was her fabulous life. Now she's embarrassed and probably a little ashamed. Maybe even jealous. My advic; never let her into your home again, but live and learn. She didn't steal from you. It doesn't sound like she broke anything. You were smart to change the locks (no telling who she runs around with) and in the future, be more careful about who you leave in charge of your home while you are away. Good luck.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 Yes. Chalk this up to a lesson to never have this/these people "housesit" for you, ever, again, in the future. Then.... get on with your life.....
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reader, tamperingtampaguy +, writes (28 October 2012):
Sad to say you can not trust anyone. I had a gf once and I left her in my house alone and money was stolen and other things , like books and stamps etc. Needless to say this killed our relationship. I have also had a cleaning lady steal from me . Sad to say but people suck.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (28 October 2012):
 HI
Yes I would take this as a valuable lesson learned, never let them awful people back in your life again! It's one thing taking a few crisps and buscuits from the cupboards, but to have the audacity to leave the rubbish in the bins, use your shower AND have a party is taking the living P*sS not even replacing what was used or leaving the place how it was left, not even being there to give you the key back or even so much as an apology. Your a lot more patient than I would have been in that situation, I'm afraid I would have let your husband go round there to fair. I wouldn't bother with them again or make any kind of contact, it's obvious they only have there interests at heart.
Mandy x
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