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*ettyboop1
writes:My guy was interested in me several months before I knew. Finally he was able to tell me. I am 44 but don't look it and he is 26, very mature and level headed. We have officially been together over a month. Spent my birthday weekend together in relationship bliss. Departed on Sunday and I haven't heard from him since. Mind you our relationship had been great and he was attentive and passionate as I was during the lovemaking. He bought me presents for my birthday and paid for my cake. He bragged about how great the sex was and how I made him excited. So why haven't I heard from him. I feel awful... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2012): I think what you thought of bonding and relationship building was just a young guy seeing an opportunity to try a cougar. Trust me, anyone under the age of 40 KNOWS you aren't in their age group even if you think you look young! Most men in that age group aren't going to see you as a future prospect and won't be looking to build anything with you in the longer term no matter how good the sex is. Your guy was interested for several months beforehand, but there were probably girls he was also more interested in simultaneously and maybe one of them finally gave him the time of day so you got the brush off.It's not fair, it's disheartening but just remember what's it's like to be that age and how when you were 25, how old even 35 sounded. There are plenty of 50 year old men though who would consider you a trophy not a conquest!!!
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 Hi OP,
while you saw it as bonding and building and felt it was a meeting on an emotional level he saw it as sex with an amazing older woman. He 'bragged' about the sex, and how you got him excited. There was no emotional attachment for him.
You can now decide whether to sit around waiting for him to contact you, or beat youself up for being deluded, or lift up you head, stick out your chest and say to yourself "I've still got it!" 'cos you know something, you do still have it and now that you know you have 'it' you can confidently go out there and find somebody who is looking for the same things you are.
Go get 'em girl!
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (27 October 2012):
 Hi
You might not have but approached it like a one night standish situation,but he did/has ~ hence his silence now. x
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (27 October 2012):
 ... because ONCE WE CATCH THE CAR, there's no need to chase it any more!!!!!!
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reader, Bettyboop1 +, writes (27 October 2012):
Bettyboop1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi my friends, Let me clear the air and get something straight. I was not just trying to spend the weekend to have sex or make love or however. Although it did happen. We were actually close and bonding trying to build something. Everyone is making it sound one night standish action .
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reader, oldbag +, writes (27 October 2012):
Hi
Ofcourse he enjoyed the weekend, a mature woman meeting up for sex. Look on him as part of your birthday present, unwrapped, enjoyed and now the birthdays over.
He sweet talked you and now his passion is spent, reality has kicked in.It can happen with any new relationships, same age,younger, older, its just life.
You will get over him and learn from it, but don't hold it against him,think of him and smile.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (27 October 2012):
 Thanks for getting back to me in an email. I'll answer you there okay?
~Eve~
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (27 October 2012):
Sounds to me it was about the sex, otherwise he would have bragged about feelings and emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2012): Hi there!your age gap is nauseating. I know you look younger than ur age but 44 less than 26 that makes you like 18 years older than him. his only 26 years old so what can u expect from a 26 years old?
I don't have anything against you, i understand you fall in love and may-december affair is so common. It happens. But to be honest they don't last. that's the sad thing.
The truth is He was so attracted to you , to think that he spent time and made an effort to show you he cares and sex was great. But his Mind won over his emotions. At the end of a great romantic moments, reality will always prevail.
His young, changes so quickly. If i were you, just forget about it and be happy for the moments you shared with him. If you care for him that much, wish him luck. And find your own happiness that will never leave you wondering what went wrong?... Good luck and God Bless!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (27 October 2012):
Before I answer it would be interesting to know - How often did you go out in the month you were together? Did you sleep with him on your first "date?" I'll get back to you if you can clarify this for me.
~Eve~
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