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writes:i struggle with women!!!!!!!!i `am the shy type of guy i`m 24 years old and i never have much confidence when it comes to women i never know what to say or do when i`m with women.There are a few who like me, i think, but i don't know what to do or say when i`m around themplease help people
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (17 November 2013):
 The easiest - and most effective - way to "talk" with a girl is to ask her questions about things that you KNOW interest her (her work, her interests... etc.) then sit back and be interested in her answer(s).... You'll be amazed at how effective this is in bringing about ease for you..... AND her!!!!
P.S. If - or, WHEN - you can get her behind closed doors... and lights out.... tell her that you are fluent in Braille.... and that you'd like to communicate in THAT language for the next hour-or-so.... Works every time... I GUARANTEE IT!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (17 November 2013):
 Hi
Don't be too starstruck. We are people, just like you, with fears, insecurities and even the occasional gassiness problem.
We have bruisable egoes and hopes.and dreams and fears.
We are a lot like.you, with prettier parts. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2013): Hello there!
You remind me of someone who have the same situation as you.
Very shy around girls. I even thought he was a snob or a gay. But I was wrong. He was just like you. his very shy around women.
The reason behind he said was because of rejection that he can't forget when he was young. Although he had a couple of relationships. There's this girl who rejected him (in a really bad way) in the past that he can't get over with.
So maybe you have your own reason behind why you feel shy around women. I am not sure why but you have to figure out.
Once you know the reason behind, well you have the need to find ways of getting over it. Or totally delete the experience on your mind.
Rejection is very normal. We get rejected everyday in different circumstances. But that's life. Even the most famous and rich people have experienced rejection. Also it would be best if you help yourself improving whatever makes you feel inferior about yourself.
Women are easy, they love to talk with men.
Make them laugh and they will not forget about you.
Be gentleman and kind at all times, around them and they will always choose to be with you than with a hunk who is rude and selfish.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (17 November 2013):
 The best tips I can give you are:
* Don't get distracted by the popular girls, because they can be hard work and a little dismissive because they get lots of attention from other people.
* If you are shy, then someone else who is shy or a little quiet will be easier to talk to because you will both want to take things slowly.
* When you talk to a woman dont forget to breathe and relax your shoulders a little. Talk about common interests you may have with her and if she starts telling you something about herself...listen and make occasional eye contact.
* I know this sounds dumb but sometimes it's better to have something to occupy your hands, like holding a drink or a book or something because a lot of nervous energy is displayed in the hands and arms.
* Smile occasionally again making brief eye contct.
* If things are going well and you want to ask her on a date, just ask. It's better to ask face to face, than to text because you can see her reaction.
* Women like to feel special, they like to feel wanted but they also like it if guys pay subtle attention to small details and takes notice. A guy who is either too full on or too lax in attention will have a woman worrying or thinking he's a jerk.
* Try to be yourself as much as possible but think about your conversation as a 50/50 thing...you both have to speak and you both have to listen. If you are stuck for something to say, it's OK, pauses are allowed and just laugh it off a little.
* remember your personal hygiene, clean hair, nails trimmed, fresh mouth, just try to look your best around the girls that you like and I do believe that good manners have not gone out of fashion, so opening doors, carrying groceries and getting her a drink all rack up points and will get you noticed.
* Nice girls like nice guys and being yourself (with a bit of polish)can allow you to get closer to the object of your affections.
If a girl relegates you to the friends zone, dont be hurt, it just means she isnt into you and that happens to everyone.
Good luck
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