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reader, massage  +, writes (23 November 2013):
 Just a reminder ...those damn emails.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2013): OP here again. While I have seen him give flowers and have gotten some on occasion, he normally goes to a flower shop.he forwarded himself this reminder email, on Saturday and again on Tuesday. He had subscribed to a reminder mail but I just think it weird! He's not an emotionally led kind of man or a romantic! It must be innocent. Thanks for your advice!
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reader, llifton +, writes (20 November 2013):
 As another mentioned - it could also just be something he registered for years ago that they still have him in the data base and send a reminder.
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reader, llifton +, writes (20 November 2013):
Anniversary of someone passing away? Parents anniversary? Friends anniversary?
I highly doubt it's to an ex. I suppose anything is possible, but it wouldn't be my first thought.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (20 November 2013):
 I think it's highly unlikely that he'd be sending flowers to his ex once a year. I can't think why on earth he'd do that, since you describe him as being perfectly sensible. I reckon they're for an aunt or some other relative, and I think that makes him a rather lovely guy!
I do think you're overthinking this. If things are otherwise ok then let it be. But maybe you're on guard or anxious after the big row the week before, and feel it's unresolved? Hence the snooping and jumping to conclusions? In that case, talk to him but not about the flowers.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2013): I'd ask him. You can always say that you saw the reminder over his shoulder and your flowers haven't turned up yet.
The other thing to think about in the UK is that the largest and best known flower delivery company (Interfl*ra!), do save your order details. I get randomn reminders from time to time for stuff that I sent and didn't untick the 'remind me next year' button!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2013): Hahaha thanks sageoldguy ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2013): There is a risk that your mind is working overtime on this. It may be nothing. And anyway, if you are happy together, why let this bother you? It may be an innocent action and nothing to do with his ex. Was a friend bereaved at that time? who knows. In the light of no other signs I would try and not over-think it
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 November 2013):
 OP: You really want to wait a week? By then, he could be enjoying the pleasures of that girl who had the flowers delivered to her address!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2013): OP here, thanks, I mean he's pretty intelligent and self aware, and he knows that she has a boyfriend so common sense says that he wouldn't be doing this! For all I know, it could be his grandmothers birthday and she lives across the country. I was hoping it's for me as we had a fight last week that was baaaaaaad. So il wait a week and keep an eye and if nothing arrives I will ask him over his shoulder again!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (20 November 2013):
To me, sounds wierd enough that you ought to ask him to 'splain what it's all about!!!!!!
Good luck...
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reader, shna  +, writes (20 November 2013):
 It could be anything his mums birthday and anniversary of a now passed on loved one !!
It could be a reminder that he created to send flowers ... It doesnt mean he actually did
I know i always make lists to do on my phone that are never completed an that still sit on my phone with no where to go months later
Why dont you just ask him i mean its not a bad thing you peeked over his shoulder and if you dont ask it will lead you to being sneaky and suspicious!!
the answer probably wont be half as bad as you think you will get an answer from him and at least you will then be able to think things through instead of questioning it all the time !!
Good luck & try not to stress about it !!
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (20 November 2013):
 I would not recommend asking as he will get defensive and not be happy with the fact you snooped and don't trust him. I suggest you find an alternate way of establishing if he is still sending flowers.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 November 2013):
 Could be for his mom?
Ask him. That is the ONLY way you will find out. I can't see what's wrong in asking.
I wouldn't MENTION the ex though, but I would ask him who he needs a reminder to send flowers to.
You say you don't WANT to ask, but if you saw it over his shoulder he kind of knows you saw it, doesn't he? And if you don't this will nag the fire out of you til you ask.
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