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writes:Hi aunties.I am trying to start a small business. I am living with my boyfriend for two years. The business is slow going but I do pay my half of the bills to my boyfriend.When the economy went in the hole, I got laid off from my job that I had for a couple of decades and I applied for several jobs and got no response. I moved away to another town to be with my boyfriend and the town is not that big. I decided to start a home business.This sounds ridiculous, but a couple of jobs did open up here but I really wanted to give my business a go first. It's been my dream.Here is the deal, I was married before and I was working 60 plus hours a week before the lay off, plus a commute. The marriage was not good with emotional abuse.I have always had a hard time being in a relationship and working. I can't pinpoint the problem. My last job required total commitment and I needed it to pay the bills, plus my ex-husband had spending issues, so the job requirements came first before my personal life. That is just the way the company worked that in order to keep your job, you were at their beck and call.For some reason, if I didn't do this business and took a job outside the home instead of the home business I feel like I would lose a handle on this relationship. I can't get the balance of the relationship with the work and there are issues with my current relationship that I am dealing with too because I am not getting the respect I deserve which is a huge issue for me. I am terrified, depressed because of the economy, feel my skill level is nothing since the layoff, I am older and if I left him what would happen to me. My mind is playing games with me, but I'm scared of going into poverty. I just feel so depressed because of this lousy economy.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 March 2014):
 Like you, I was "work-a-holic" for some time... and used it to justify my destructive behaviour (which, ultimately, scuttled my marriage).
YOU need to make a decision.... are you going to be a "work-a-holic" believing that your (successful) business will make your life worth living???.... OR, do you want to interact with other humans - i.e. your boyfriend - and enjoy THAT sort of life???.... Your choice.
Good luck....
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