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writes:I met this guy about a month ago in a club. A foreigner, that moved to my country to play water polo for one of our clubs. He was staring at me all night, then he introduced himself, we started talking and found out that we have so much in common. We are both with zodiac sign in cancer, had similar situations in life, like the same things...so we clicked straight. I gave him my number, as he was dropping me home with a cab that night.He straight added me on all social networks and asked to take me to dinner following day.I was so excited to see him that when he picked me next day up I didn't think of the fact that he didn't have my address, nor navigation and that he is a foreigner in my country.Later when he was dropping me home I asked him how he found my street and he told me that ever since he met me he was thinking "do not lose her number and remember where she lives"(so he was pretty much memorizing the way to my place, that night when we took the cab from club).After our first date, we got in front of my house. We didnt stop talking all night and all of a sudden we were in front of my building and it got weird.I just kissed him on the cheek and went out.As I was opening the door, I was thinking what went wrong after such an amazing night, and why didn't he tried kissing me, cause the night we met he asked if he can kiss me (didnt get it) and was little pushy and with attitude, when I got message from him "I wanted to kiss u :( "He told me that he was about to leave to his country in 3 days, for 3 weeks, and wanted to see me again before he goes. So 2 days after, the night before he took off, we went to a dinner. It all went well, we had so much fun, but he didn't try to pulling me into kiss or anything.So we were again in car in front of my building and it took so long while he tried kissing me. But then it was so good, and he kept repeating how good it was and how he doesn't want to leave now.Next day he had left.He spend almost 3 weeks there, calling me, texting me and informing me all the time that he was there.Telling me about his family, where he is going, he even called me once when he was drunk (then he was not as shy :)Every time he called he kept saying how he cant wait to come back and see me, how he wants to kiss me again, all the places we will go when he comes back...but he didnt even mention or tried going in direction of sex :) I never met a guy who didn't try anything for all that time of talking, even though he was telling me all the time how pretty I am,how he looks at my pics all the time....confusing! Than he came back. He informed me when he landed and went home to sleep. Next day he was texting me all day without asking to see me. He only informed me that he went to dinner with his entire team and asked to see me tomorrow. I was already annoyed cause he was talking so much how he cant take it anymore, how he can't wait to see me and what is happening now?:/Then the next day, we were supposed to meet in the evening and than he texted me how he can't, cause he has to go with his club to support the basketball players.I understand the obligations that he has and the fact that we are not in relationship,but he didnt say sorry, or offered to see me in-between or just stop by after. Nothing.:@ I am really disappointed, cause he seemed so nice, really respectful towards me, really honest, really interested.Is he just shy, taking it slowly, pocking me on purpose or just all of a sudden not as interested? :/Not to forget to mention, I was the one who told him that I recently ended a really long relationship and that we need to take it slowly, but I didn't mean this slow.After this dumping, should I just say I have obligations next time he calls or is that so obvious?I really like him in every way and I dont know what to do? :/If he was so interested as he seemed,he would do anything to come and see me :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2014): We don't know for sure what happened these 2 nights. Lets just assume he is telling the truth. The fact he didn't try to kiss you and is being very courteous with you is good, there is. Nothing bad here. He obviously likes you because he keeps on contacting you. I see only one solution here be honest. You want to see him, then tell him that. Also you are disappointed with not seeing him for such a long time, tell him that also. Tell him that you really wanted to see him that night and it was disappointing to you that he cancelled. Playing games never did anyone any good.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (3 April 2014):
 This guy is playing the "four-date" scheme SO BEAUTIFULLY, that, I predict, he will end up in the "Guy" Hall of Fame...
Good luck....
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (3 April 2014):
 To me it sounds as if he's been genuinely busy since he got back. But also, he may be wary that you're not as interested as he is - he may not want to appear too pushy or keen. I'd go for it and suggest a date. And if he suggests a date first, pleae don't play games and say you have obligations if you don't - he hasn't explicitly "dumped" you, after all. He hasn't even cancelled dates, he's explained each time why he hasn't been able to see you yet. Good luck, hope it all works out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2014): Gosh woman! Why don't you arrange a meet? He contacts you all the time so he's obviously into you.
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