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I am planning on having sex outside my marriage

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Question - (25 May 2014) 7 Answers - (Newest, 26 May 2014)
A male Mauritius age 41-50, *echarmant writes:

Hello. I have been trying to ask this question for a few times because i am facing a situation in which i am undecided. I will talk honestly. Well i am married since 10 years. I have always loved to appreciate beautiful women. I particularly appreciate a girl and it's reciprocal. As i am married, i made it clear that between us it would only be sex and i informed her that i won't get any sort of emotional attachment for her. She said she understood and that she is not looking to have my affection either. She only wants to satisfy her lust as me. But at the same time i know how women are. They end up getting attached. Can you say that i am using takibg into account that she knows i am married and will sleep with her for my own enjoyment?

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A male reader, lecharmant Mauritius +, writes (26 May 2014):

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Its only for my own pleasure. Maybe i will f*** her once and thats it. My wife will never know.

I have slept with other women. When there is mutual attraction i usually go for it. I feel attracted to several wonen at the same time and will get my fill. I will f*** her and if i get the chance to f*** other women, i'll go for it. But this girl seems so fragile that i am afraid of the outcone because she will only be a beautiful body for me

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (26 May 2014):

BrownWolf agony aunt

PLEASE...OH PLEASE... GO AHEAD AND DO IT!!!!

GOD has a really good sense of humour :) TRUST ME!!!

If you don't think it will come back to haunt you because as we think "No one will know" or as you said " i won't get any sort of emotional attachment for her." Then go ahead :) What will make your punishment even worst...is very fact that you acknowledge your actions ahead of time, and being all proud of your decision…Because You ARE THE MAN!!!

So yes…DO IT !!! Hope you do not get upset when your own wife is not having “any sort of emotional attachment for him.” So do not angry at your wife for cheat on you, or if you have a daughter and her husband does that to her.

Remember you said “I won't get any sort of emotional attachment.” HEHE!!!

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (26 May 2014):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI note this phrase in your submittal: "I have always loved to appreciate beautiful women."

I take it that this (phrase) constitutes your justification for an extra-marital dalliance? It doesn't.

Good luck....

P.S. I appreciate a beautiful rose, but don't always have sex with it!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2014):

I have cheated. I have been cheated on NOBODY WINS! EVER!

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A female reader, Got Issues United Kingdom +, writes (25 May 2014):

Got Issues agony auntI'm sure you feel you have your reasons for looking for sex outside your marriage, but have you thought about what is so wrong with your marriage that you feel you need to cheat? I don't know you or your situation, but I see so many people who give up and allow themselves to drift apart from their spouse. Sometimes, with a lot of effort, marriages can be fixed, other times they can't. Have you even tried?

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States +, writes (25 May 2014):

Fatherly Advice agony auntYou have good reason to be undecided. Part of which you have already explained. You do not trust your affair partner to stay emotionally detached. You are right. You are also letting your lust run away with you. You know it is only lust. Why would you risk your long term happiness for temporary lust. Listen to your own arguments. Let this pass.

FA

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A female reader, Brokenv Canada +, writes (25 May 2014):

You are making this BIGGEST mistake of your life!

Does your wife know that you plan on doing this? Is she ok with it?

You are going to cause much undo stress on you, your wife, your family, your job for a moment of satisfaction. It is a moment and nothing more. Sorry to tell you but it last a moment and your impaired judgement last a life time.

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