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writes:Ok so yesterday I had sex with one of my friends (we have a kind of FWB thing going on).Afterwards we were chatting and I happened to mention that I had told my mum that I was revising at his house and that it was looking kind of suspicious (since is only been there 30-40 minutes)He suddenly asked if I wanted to see his dog and we spent the next hour chatting, playing with his dog and him showing me tricks. Now I feel like I've overstepped the fwb mark by basically unintentially inviting myself to stay another hour also he found out I also slept with his best friend.He got weirdly competitive about size, length of time etc
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (13 October 2014):
 It all sounds way too complicated this whole FWB thing no wonder I was destined to grow up in a more traditional society where you either screwed or you didn't Everything else was just "normal" day-to day living, no big time complications with gee what if I had 3 or 4 FWBs in the same room at the samme time? Holy smoke it's gotten to where you need a scorecard to keep up. Even then I can't see how it works out. Good Luck with your FWB dilema. Why not go "old school " and marry somebody?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2014): First of, it's a VERY BAD IDEA to sleep with people who know each other, really bad idea.
Can I ask you why are being FWB with a boy at your tender age? What is in it for you??
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (12 October 2014):
 Cindy: I'm with you. I couldn't BEGIN to understand what is "FWB" as well as "hooking up".... The back seat of my '56 Pontiac NEVER saw the likes of what we are learning/hearing about on this site!!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 October 2014):
 Why ? Does he normally puts you out as soon you've used up the 30 minutes which are technically sufficent , what with some forepaly, getting undressed, intercourse, washing up , and getting dressed ?...
Is this your guys ' ( or your ) normal M.O. ? Ejaculation means "game over ; you need to get going "?
Sheesh.
That's not FWB- that's more like... a procedure of artificial insemination ?...
If this is the way which is now normal for sex among teenagers, I am SO happy I am not a teenager anymore....
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (12 October 2014):
Everyone makes the mistake of thinking that the boundaries are clear with FWB arrangements. They’re not. There is a clear line between a platonic, and sexual relationship, but trying to mix them in this way rarely works. One starts to fall for the other, then gets hurt when it remains a casual no-strings arrangement for that other person. Other times, jealousy creeps in and you end up considering yourself exclusively with that person and unable to deal with what you signed up to: not being exclusive or having any right to comment on their love life at all. You ask if you overstepped the mark, but there’s no clear mark to overstep. I suppose the answer is that you’re now left feeling uncomfortable about it and unclear how you stand with each other, so you’ve reached the point where you realise this won’t work. I think you should abandon your sexual relationship with him, and I’m afraid you may have to put some distance between you if that becomes necessary to avoid sex. You can do better than no-strings sex anyway, concentrate on actually revising and working hard for your future. It’s obviously a stressful and important time in your life right now and I would question whether anxiety about FWBs and the complex and confusing dynamics of these unworkable arrangements, are a distraction neither you, nor he, need right now.
I wish you all the very best.
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