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*itti_kat123
writes:I was with my ex for nearly 2 1/2 years and we broke about up 6 months ago. I was feeling ok until a few weeks ago and now i think about him all the time and miss him so much. When breaking up with ex's before i had always jumped into another relationship and i knew this wasn't a good thing so this time i wanted time to myself. I haven't been dating at all but i met a guy in a bar last week and after talking to him a couple of times it made me miss my ex even more. I thought i would be over him by now and feeling better but i seem to be missing him more and more. The relationship ended badly and there was never really any closure in fact the relationship in itself was almost dysfunctional but we were crazy about each other. Is it normal to still miss someone after this long? Do i miss him more because i haven't been dating and meeting new people? I was thinking maybe i should reach out to him to get the closure we never had? I don't want to get back with him but i still have this fantasy that maybe one day things will work out with us i know this isn't realistic because the relationship wasn't right but i cant get it out of my head.I'm just so confused i was doing fine and now i miss him more than i did when we first broke up!!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (6 November 2014):
 If it's any consolation.... I have "carried a torch" for my high-school sweetheart for about 50 years now....
It's OK to miss someone.... but don't let it determine how you live (the rest of) your life...
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2014): It's normal, just tough it out and in time it will go away. keep yourself busy with other things.Sometimes dating other people can help, but it sounds like you need some time to do your own thing. Maybe go travelling or take up a new hobby/thing you've wanted to do but never got round to?
I kept having nightmares about my ex for almost a year afterwards. I felt really annoyed with myself that I still couldn't let go of those thoughts, even subconciously. Eventually they did go away though and I look back on it now and realise what a bad relationship it was (an totally unworthy of so much thought!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2014): It's all normal. But I'd do some serious soul searching on what it was/is you miss about him
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