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writes:My latest "best friend in life" and I have been in a committed relationship going on 19 months. We addressed the "wondering eye" syndrome and his "friends on facebook", and I finally had told him that since he said, "I will never hurt you", I told him that I would start trusting him with my life. He would like to move toward moving in with me, but I have decided that I want more or none. I am looking for a lifetime partner in holy matrimony, not a "live-in" that a person may not ever be able to rid of if it didn't work out. We really have been planning to be together as we age, but after a phone call conversation last night, I don't think he really wants or needs a woman in his life as a life partner, but needs to just enjoy himself the rest of his days with what HE enjoys and possibly date different women as he feels he wants to. It is so sad, but I really don't think this is working. Lately he is complaining about a lot of things happening around my home with pets, my family etc., along with griping that the gas is costing him too much to come over all the time. It is a two hour drive each way, but this was fine until he purchased a new FJ Cruiser (which is a gas hog). We have had a rough summer because of work needing done at his rentals, my place, and a project of moving his mother and sister to the area from another state. (The move is still in process)The thing that really frosts me is that he has a chance to go with his bro-in-law and other "men" this weekend to Utah riding ATV's. We're in the middle of painting, fixing and moving into that house for his mother and sis, but they can take off and do that? And here's the worst part of the whole ordeal............Friday is my birthday! He is choosing riding atv's and camping instead of spending it with me? That really makes me feel "special"! I am really a priority, aren't I? Oh, yes, I have been invited to go along, but would be the only woman. COLD time of year! Yes, I believe actions speak louder than words, don't you?I think it is time to say "goodbye"! I will always love him, but we are not really compatible. I have an open mind and have tried so hard! I even studied about a Scorpio woman and a Sagittarius man in a relationship, which had about a 40% chance of success with everyone really trying hard. In so many ways we've had a dazzling relationship, but I really feel we just crashed! He has crushed my heart for the last time!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 November 2014):
 I always look to see if the actions match the words.
I think that his do actually and that the issue is that he's just NOT enough for you
his idea of what a relationship is and should be do not match what yours are.
there is inherent discrepancy with your ideals
If you say he has crushed your heart for the last time, then yes "goodbye" may be the only thing you can do.
What will happen POSSIBLY is that you will try to end it.
He will BEG and PLEAD and PROMISE to be what you want and need. IF you two have NOT talked about this in the past, then I would suggest being OPEN to letting him map his plan and try to be what you want and need. but that the second he slips back to being what you don't want or need you be prepared to walk for good and go no contact with him at that point. Men like him will promise the sun the moon and the stars and make it look good till you are so ensnared you can't figure out how to get out easily.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 November 2014):
You write: "I think it is time to say "goodbye"! "
I agree....
Good luck....
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (5 November 2014):
So called birth sign do not mean jack all when it come to a relationship. Two people fall in love and want to work towards staying together for life...that's it.
Sounds like you know already what you want in life, and that my dear is AWESOME!!! Stick to that rule...no man is moving in unless he is carrying you over the threshold in your wedding dress. Good for you :)
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