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*yra882
writes:My boyfriend refuses to call me pet names. I feel so unloved. Especially after sex. Does it mean he does not love me? I only asked him to do that after we make love. Not all the time but he refused. I feel put off having sex with him. Being vulnerable with him only to be talked to like one of his mates. To top it all he practically lives off me. Am the sole breadwinner. Am really tired of being used in every way. Is this something some men just can't do? Thank u for reading and responding..:)
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (9 October 2014):
 Cindy was just right. Refocus and convince yourself to dump this worthless creep......
Good luck...
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 October 2014):
 I have to say I agree with Cindy.
Pet names should be the LEAST of your concerns.
My husband RARELY call me any pet names (other than momma) which is understandable as I am the mom of out children.. but honey, baby, boo, whatever - would feel fake to me. I don't think a pet name = love. IF you think he doesn't love you because he doesn't call you a pet name.. you have an odd sense of "what love is".
Some people don't USE pet names, others don't. I don't use any for my spouse either, but my kids have all sort of nicknames. I don't think a pet name (before, during or after sex) is for everyone.
If you have a problem with him living off you, then don't BE his ride.
If you have a problem with not feeling love because of lack of pet names? Then you have a whole other pot of issues.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (9 October 2014):
 CindyCares is right,this guy is a freeloader getting sex for nuthin' The least he could do for it would be call you names like loser-babe or baby do-do heard. I've never heard of tis arrangement before. How does one get on board?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 October 2014):
 I find a bit curious that you have got a bf who is living off you, and you worry instead about pet names.
In a way I sort of admire him- he refuses to sing for his supper. He's a moocher with some integrity. Think how many guys would say to themselves :
" sure, I'll call you babe, I'll call you honey, I'll call you what you want- as long as you keep giving me a free ride ".
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