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*acirides23
writes:I am going absolutely crazy. My husband and I have 2 kids (1yr old and 3yr old), They have alot of emotional issues and are really hard to keep under control so I need his help more then the average mother and woman. My husband is ALWAYS gone out with his friends...and I mesn ALWAYS. He usually leaves around 11am and gets home about 5pm eats dinner and watches tv for about 2 hours then is gone all night till about 3am or 4am sometimes even 5am, if i get lucky he will come home around 1am. He has no job, so their is no reason to be gone. I do have a job its about 2 days a week for about 9 hours. He rarely takes our little ones with him when he is gone. He rarely lets me go with him also. I have tried talking to him about it a million times and crying and begging him to stay home but nothing ever changes...I don't know what to do anymore..i have threatened to leave him a hand full of times and STILL nothing ever changes. All I want is help with our little boys and to spend time with him but he doesn't seem to care because he still leave every day and every night. Did i mention that i didnt give birth to our sons? the biological mom lost all visitation right at birth because they both were born on all kinds of crazy drugs like meth and heroin..she is now in prison and i have been with him since our 1 yr old son was 3 weeks old. they call me mommy and thats how it is. I am so depressed because i am not aloud to go anywhere or do anything with my friends he wont let me i am just stuck at home raising kids and waiting and wishing he would come home. I need help!!!! what do I do? Please help me....
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 November 2014):
 I would not be able to leave without considering the children's future. It would break my heart. I would contact CFS and see if there's a better family who could adopt them. You just realized who you married and all you are is an unpaid babysitter. If children do not motivate one to be better people then he has no right to be called father. You see on the news about dads locking their babies in the car for hours while going inside the pubs? These are things you would worry about if you just left without thinking. Luckily in a divorce a lawyer would help you step by step with what you have to do.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (8 November 2014):
 The guy you call a husband is better described as Freddy the freeloader. A: You must make several hundred dollars per hour in order to pay the basic bills (where can I get a job like that?) B:With that income, seems to me you coould leave the stupid Freddy.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 November 2014):
 So...... your "husband," approximately, carries on his life with not a whit of concern for you......????
How long do you suppose that you will - or will want to - put up with this neglect???????
The answer to my question will give you the answer to YOUR question....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2014): Your children are they biologically your husbands? Or have you adopted them? If you haven't adopted them keep in mind that leaving your husband might mean you lose custody of the children (if they are his).
Your husband sounds like a real jerk. However, it could be he feels overshadowed by the children and 'couple' time has turned into 'family' time. But if he's refusing to let you go out with him or spend time with him I'm not positive this is correct. Was this his behavior before the children? Did he go party every night? Did you go with him or did he leave you home? Is this a recent development or normal?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 November 2014):
 Your household income comes from an 18 hr job? How on earth can you survive on that?
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