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writes:me and my boyfriend of nearly 2 years are LDR, everything was great for the first few months, then early last year he ran off for another girl, that didn't work out, so me - with mug written on my forehead - took him back with open arms.things were great again for a while, but then late last year he started talking to a couple of girls he used to be friendly with, over time he was talking to them more and more, and started meeting up with them, every time he goes out i do not hear from him at all, regardless of who he's with.i started getting into a nasty habit of logging into his facebook(i still do it to this day) and i actually found messages to these girls(and others) basically flirting and pretty much trying to get with them. the very first time i saw these messages, my heart broke into a million little pieces, and after a few days i decided to confront him, but instead of saying "i logged into your facebook and saw them" i said that i had received a few messages from a couple of different girls, and he just denied it and told me to stop being so paranoid.recently i've seen messages on his facebook that he's telling girls that he doesn't wanna be with me anymore but can't break up with me because i owe him money(this is true, my parents owe him money for getting me a new tv last month and i owe him money for travel expenses around where i live)then just last night i logged into his facebook, and from what i could tell, he had messaged a girl about an account he has on a dating site, that ne had "not 1 reply" or something, then a couple hours later he had messaged her saying the dating site company had deleted his account or something.i know full well he is playing me like a good 'un, and possibly even playing every other girl he talks to like a good 'un too, but i don't wanna break up with him just yet, i wanna do a little test, i want to cut all ties with him, just for a few days, and see if he starts to realise what he had, and realise he could well lose it.i need advice from people, will this work or not? help!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 In order to "...realise what he had, and realise he could well lose it...." he would have to have a brain.... and, apparently, this guy doesn't. So, don't be disappointed if your "test" doesn't give you the results that you expect.
Meanwhile, make a "Plan B" on what to do for the REST of your life..... 'cuz you have no future with this creature...
Good luck...
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (10 February 2012):
The only thing that will work for you is to move on and cut him out of your life completely.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): "i know full well he is playing me like a good 'un, and possibly even playing every other girl he talks to like a good 'un too, but i don't wanna break up with him just yet, i wanna do a little test, i want to cut all ties with him, just for a few days, and see if he starts to realise what he had, and realise he could well lose it.
i need advice from people, will this work or not?"
No, of course not, he already realizes what he has now, a chick who knows he's playing her but is too dumb and/or too vain and/or too clingy to dump him. If you cut contact he won't even notice and you'll be back on dear cupid in a matter of days asking us why he's ignoring you.
Don't kid yourself into thinking he'll come crawling back to you because you're somehow better or worthier than any other chick he's stringing along. Believe me, in his mind chicks like you are all the same, and he is absolutely right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): He knows what he 'had', a doormat. A girl who sits around waiting for him, who knows he is just not into her, who treats her like a mug and she still wants him.
Why would you not contacting him bother him in the least, I doubt he has even noticed. I am really sorry but this guy is not worth your time or energy. He isn't going to change toward you no matter what you do. Its over.
You will probably still want HIM though, which is why he knows he can behave however he wants.
If you can possibly find the strength, then never contact him again,block him on FB, arrange a way to pay back his money - via a friend or by post, and get out there n find a lad who really likes you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): hahaha you migth aswell tattoo 'mug' to your forehead OP.
Are you seriously asking us if ignoring a guy who has proven and you know for a fact never, ever cared about you and always just took you for a mug will make him realize what he has? He already knows what he has, he has a mug. An idiot that no matter how badly he treats her she'll always come back to him. He already knows this, but yeah technically having his mug ignore him for a few days and come crawling back to him after that will make him realize that's she's even more of a mug than he thought she was. So yeah, ignore him for a few days, then when you come crawling back he can laugh his ass off and get another ego boost from the woman who just "can't help herself".
Sorry for being harsh OP, but you have to realize NOTHING is ever going to work on a guy that cares so little for you because you're not even in love with him you're scarily obsessed and stalking his facebook account.
Good luck OP, you're literally screwed, this is going to get oh so bad for you because you won't let go. The only thing you can do is rid him from your life for good, but I don't see you doing that because you got it too bad.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 February 2012):
 Why don’t you want to break up with him just yet?
What does he have with you in an LDR that is two years old? What do you get from him other than the fact that you don’t trust him? How often do you see him?
He won’t care if you cut ties for a few days… .truthfully… you are LDR you are not clearly real to him.
LDR after two years you should be making plans to be NOT LDR any more…
Get your parents to pay him what they owe him.. and what you owe him too. It’s better to owe your parents than him..
Cut ties and move on… he’s cheating on you… your LDR is a joke.
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reader, Crazy Fox  +, writes (10 February 2012):
 Omg, this is just amazing, it really is. You see it now with your own eyes what kind of guy he is and you are still trying to keep him? Sorry, but have some dignity. Well you do know that it's not a good job to do what you are doing with his FB account. But anyway, it's time to stop it and time to break up with the guy, not just for a few days to see what he is gonna do - but do it for good. You will be better off without him. How can you trust him? Sorry if I sounded a bit harsh, but that's my opinion and I feel sorry for you.
Regards,
Crazy Fox
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2012): No, it won't work.
Why don't you break up with him and realize that you're missing out on other guys?
If they don't care about you move on....
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