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How can I encourage him? My boyfriend is not affectionate

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Question - (11 February 2012) 5 Answers - (Newest, 11 February 2012)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost two months. We have only held hands once.

I just find it wierd that he does not want to hold my hand, hug, or kiss me. I try to hint to him that I want him to hold my hand, but I don't think he gets them. What should I do?

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (11 February 2012):

YouWish agony auntTwo months? That's not a good sign.

If he's not affectionate in public or private, you may have a problem. Hinting isn't going to do it. You may want to have a kind-hearted, loving, but direct talk about the subject.

Be prepared to accept the answer, though. These things tend to get worse, rather than better. If he's not affectionate only 2 months into the relationship, it's only going to get less so as time goes on.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (11 February 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntYou can say this to him: "You know, (his name)... if you don't try to put the moves on me before too long... then you're going to have to satisfy yourself putting those moves on some other girl in the near future.... because I AM GETTING BORED!!!!"

If THAT doesn't get him moving, then nothing will.....

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A female reader, Amanda-Louise93 United Kingdom +, writes (11 February 2012):

Amanda-Louise93 agony auntEither tell him you need more or kick him to the curb. Simple as that no worries.

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A female reader, MyDaysOnceRevolvedAroundYou United Kingdom +, writes (11 February 2012):

MyDaysOnceRevolvedAroundYou agony auntMaybe, he doesn't feel ready for an intimate and serious relationship with someone yet. Do you know of any girls he has before been intimate with?

Some guys are a little shy at first when they start dating a girls in general.. If this is the case and he has never been with a girl before, you perhaps need to earn more trust than your two month relationship has given you and once you have built up that trust he might let you in.

I hope this helps.

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A male reader, Ayan Ganguly India +, writes (11 February 2012):

Ayan Ganguly agony auntLove means different things to different people and your partner may not be your dream man but what is important is if you both are in love with each other from the core of your heart and if it is so you need not be much bothered,may be you can talk to him and ask him to show a little physical manifestation of his love towards you...hope that helps you...all the best..

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