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writes:So whenever my boyfriend and I get really frisky and have the privacy and space to have sex, we do it and what not. But after constant changing of positions (missionary, to doggie, and other variations) and anything over 15-30min, I start to get dry and lose my horniness! Which presents problems for the both of us when he wants to penetrate deeper but cannot do so without hurting me. Am I the only one? Suggestions to help ease this? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 February 2012):
 ONE WORD: LUBE!
I suggest spending the extra money and going for the silicone based lubes... silky feel not slippery and they last longer.
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reader, Latti +, writes (1 February 2012):
A little LUBE...goes a long way!
I keep lube, all kinds, smell good, taste good, tingling sensation...right next to the bed for easy access.
I personally am a fan of the " Marathon Man", so I understand that I need a little help staying wet. However, when I find myself losing desire...this is where you become creative! Sing a little louder, play with is his eroctic spots to help him climax (chest, nipples, balls, hair, butt), play with your eroctic spots (breast, clit, touch yourself more) to help you regain interest, toys go a long way!
Toys...are a great investment. Sex games, movies, handcuffs...or whatever turns you on. It only becomes boring if you let it. Your young & have plenty of time to experiment. Keep safe sex first & enjoy!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 February 2012):
 There are several "personal" lubricants available in pharmacies, which will solve this problem....
Since this occurs in on-going playing, I suggest you make the application (and re-application, if necessary) a part of your love-making. It could be a fun add-on!!!!
Good luck....
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (1 February 2012):
 Well start by not changing positions so much, that definitely wont be helping. Stick with one position if possible, and if your boyfiend wants to change position only allow this once.
Use lube as well - that is a guaranteed way of remaining wet when you need to be.
I'm sure you are not the only one that experiences this, it will be fairly common. I personally lose my horniness after 30 mins of sex, simply because it gets a bit boring and if you havent had an orgasm by then you never will! Men have this stupid idea in their heads that the longer they last the better, and this really isnt true.
It actually sounds like your boyfriend is deliberately trying to last longer as changing positions helps men last longer as they break rhythm when they move position. So if he keeps constantly changing position then it seems like he is trying to last longer, and this is a common misconception from men that us girls like sex to last as long as possible. I personally dont want sex to last more than half an hour, 15-20 mins is ideal really. I think as long as a guy lasts more than a couple of minutes thats fine, there is no need for marathon sex sessions! Maybe have a chat with him and explain that you enjoy sex more when it is a bit shorter, so you dont need him to prevent himself from cumming as much, he can relax a bit more and enjoy himself rather than worrying about doing every position under the sun just so he cums later.
Try talking to him first, then stop him from changing positions so much and if that still isnt working use lube.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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