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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): your anger is probably because you don't really like her very much as a person (and maybe she feels the same about you) yet you are trapped together because you have a kid. this sucks, but how about officially ending the relationship (because the relationship sucks) and just make an agreement for how to share the parenting duties for the kid but without having to be "involved" with each other's lives other than your kid.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 March 2012):
 “and no we don’t love together”
Freudian slip if ever there was one….
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reader, DarkSoul313 +, writes (28 March 2012):
DarkSoul313 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Okay I'm 18-21 and so is she. And I've been feeling deception for some time now its just a gut feeling that I can't subside. no we don't love together and majority of our conversation are about our daughter that sometimes we talk about what we have left but its basically arguing.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 March 2012):
There is a big difference between 18 and 21.
there is a HUGE difference between 18 and 24
if you are 18 you have been with her since you were 14
even at 20-24 there are big changes.
you probably have outgrown each other.
you say you barely have contact... is the contact only about your child?
are you living together?
how old is she?
you feel deception, there probably is deception
and it's probably time to move on from the relationship.
contact an attorney about child support and visitation and get it all mapped out with your baby's momma....
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 March 2012):
 You write "...We barely have contact with each other..."
Am I to understand that the two of you have remained unmarried and do not live at the same address???
Sometimes, wading in to adulthood can really suck......
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): DarkSoul313 - what do you mean you "feel deception from her"? I don't understand that phrase.As for feeling angry at her all the time ... I would suggest your anger (although unfairly directed at her) actually is as a result of being very young and feeling trapped. You had a child together very early in your lives. So, rather than being angry with her (and presumably this shows itself in the way you treat her?), why not take a step back and ask yourself how she is feeling. Perhaps she is feeling trapped too. She certainly can't be feeling happy when you are around if you are angry with her all the time.Have you tried talking about how you both feel now? You never know, maybe she wants out of this relationship just as much as you?Your priority - and I'm sure you already know this - is your child. Providing a loving, supportive home for this innocent you both chose to bring into the world should be at the top of your list. If you are no longer happy together you must find a way to provide (financially and emotionally) for your child. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): The age range on the page says 18-21 and you state it to be 18-24 (which is a pretty huge range). It appears that you want to seem older than you are. It's just an observation and no offence meant.
Why do you think she's deceiving you? What appears to be the problem? Relationships don't just fade without cause.
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