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*rinceofsorrow
writes:HiWhen I am in bed at night, instead of masturbating over my crush and thinking about sex with her, I do something a little different.I imagine the two of us together in my bed and holding/hugging each other, but kind of really tightly, like as tight as possible, with her pressing all of her body into mine as much as she can (but no penetration or intercourse, we have our Pajamas on). Also there is some writhing around involved to create friction between us.I'm probably making it sound weirder and more sordid than it actually is, but thats all I ever think about when fantasising about her.Is there a name for this kind of fetish? What does it mean about my feelings for her?
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reader, princeofsorrow +, writes (6 April 2012):
princeofsorrow is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for all of your answers. I never thought of the two of us tied up together, thanks for the idea!
And Sageoldguy, you made me laugh with that name, think I'm going to use that.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (5 April 2012):
 Don't think it's a fetish.. sounds like you like romance and you like to cuddle.. that is not classed as a sexual fetish at all, so there is no name for it. Sounds like you just want to be as close to her as possible, and because there doesn't seem to be anything sexual, I call that romantic.
Now if there was rope involved or you two were tied up together and couldn't get away, then it would come under the category of bondage. But it's the inability to get away that's the main thing, and you didn't say anything about that.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 P.S. I forgot to tell you that your "practice" DOES have a clinical name.....
It is called "solo pajama-bound uber-hugging with frictional writhing" You'd be surprised how many (of us) practice it!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 April 2012):
 Doesn't sound like a fetish, more like a really sweet fantasy. Just enjoy it.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 April 2012):
 That's definitely not a fetish. I think maybe you want to think about her "respectfully" or something and not violate something since you really like her (just a guess though). I've talked to a few guys who feel uncomfortable fantasizing about someone they really like naked or having sex because they feel like it's disrespectful.
Either way, it's not weird or wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2012): This is totally normal and fine!
Alot of people enjoy this type of thing- it is a normal part of foreplay with my girlfriend and I and I find it super-arousing to be close to her.
Don't feel bad or odd at all about it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 April 2012):
Doesn't sound fetishlike to me.... sounds pretty normal...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 April 2012):
 Sounds unfetish like to me... more like you love her and want to be close to her...
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (4 April 2012):
 That's not a fetish, its completely normal
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 April 2012):
 I don't think this qualifies as a fetish. It is something you enjoy to fantasize about, but it isn't a fetish. Wanting to hug and hold close someone you have feelings for is MORE normal than dreaming of just having sex with them. If you have feelings for someone you are more likely to dream of intimacy and connection with them, rather than plain sex.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 April 2012):
 This is not a fetish at all. Believe me people think off all sorts when they masturbate, they just don't talk about it to others, so now you are feeling that the things you think about are not normal when they are. Please don't worry about it as there is nothing to worry about at all. This just gives you pleasure and there is nothing wrong or weird about it. You are not harming anyone and you are not thinking about anything disturbing so just carry on doing what you are doing. It does not mean you feel less for your girlfriend than you do, it is just your imagination and everyone uses that while masturbating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2012): I don't think it's a fetish at all. It's normal, your wanting to be as close as possible with your crush, without it being intimate (pj's on).
In fact, my boyfriend and I will sometimes be lying down talking, sharing, caring... and when I am pressed as you described, totally up next to him, really as close as possible, and I hug and squeeze him really tight, he gets turned on by that and often it will lead to more...
So that is why you are fantasising about it. You want to be as close as possible. Not just mentally, but physically too.
Other males will be able to tell you more ;-)
Males... over to you!
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