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writes:i have known this guy for like 2yrs, he is married but not really very happy into this relation of his. i "really" love him and even broke up with a boyfriend of 4years for him,because i dint want to cheat on him. he used to like my best friend in the same workplace and i was an asshole that i tried to patch him up with her.but my friend dint give him a peice of shit, and was indulged in sobody else.he does not live with his wife,but they are not divorced.about six mnths back my feeling for him i dnt knw how just went on peak and i kissed him. we just used to cuddle and kiss in the workplace for about 2mnths before he was shifted in the evening batch.we did not go any further physically.i wanted to but he dint do it. he told me he was not prepared,, omg ??? those 2mnths were like the best days of my life.it was just him and me.. but he never said he loves me.. he told me that he likes me.but i told him that i loved him.after the shifting in the batch our distance increased and his calls decreased. he never called me i was the one to initiate always,now he does not even reply to messages.. does not pick up calls, he only does it when he wants to. he has said he loves me only once when i actually forced him to tell what he actually feels about me. i simply dnt knw what it is .. is he still into my friend.. or is it because of his wife.. or simply because i am thinking too much.. where can he be so busy?? and does he really love me. i knw there is nothing between him and his wife
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 He'a not interested just let it go. He has too much going on in his lfe and you should just back off completely. Whether his marriage is good or not is none of your business. He is not availble to you. Don't waste any more of your time on this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2012): This man is a RAT. He's cheating on his wife (and SageOldGuy is soooo right - everything this man tells you about his wife or marriage is a load of rubbish!)
YOU ARE LETTING THIS MAN USE YOU!
Do not phone him. Do not text him or he will continue to treat you like a piece of rubbish he can pick up and use, then throw away.
Don't waste any more of your valuable life on this waster.
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reader, JaneSmith2012  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 Hey really sorry to tell you this ... But pls please move on as soon as possible.. i dont want you to undergo that painful heartbreak which seems to be lurking in the corner .
Its true that guy is a womaniser in the making. Firstly he was married when you met him . Next he was interested in this friend of yours. Thirdly he didnt express any kind of objection when you kissed him. Guess that makes him an asshole all rite.
But as far as you are concerned it appears as if you have initiated this relationship with him by kissing him. I wish you had bothered to find out if he was interested in you otherwise.
Also you tell us that the only time he "confessed" his love was when you coerced him to say something about you. Do you think that's really a true confession
Do be thankful that you didnt get physical with this guy beyond kissing and cuddling. You could have become emotionally unstable if this guy had dumped you after having sex with you.
Iam sorry to give you another wake up call , there's actually no way for you to confirm if he's still staying away from his wife.Mind you she's his wife and he can get back to her any time ,since the laws royally allow it.If he loved you enough then he should have had the courage to tell his wife and move on and let her move on as well.
This guy is plainly looking for some backstreet time pass which you have provided him without his asking..
So please grasp this opportunity as heaven sent and break off all contacts with him..
There's yet another thing you need to realise . It appears as if you've given up on a stable boyfriend for someone who doesnt even wish to be a part of your life or doesnt include you in his.
As a well wisher i really dont want you to fall for a married man again, unless you fancy yourself a homewrecker.Most of extramarital affairs just end up as the other woman's spell which is broken within a short period of time !! Why do you have to go in search of a heartbreak when people are busy searching for happiness ?? The next time you go for a guy pls ensure he's single ,genuinely likes you and wants to be in a real relationship with you. I might sound like iam being rude but believe me i really do have your best interests at heart.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (30 March 2012):
 You have described (and are partaking of) the classic mismatch of mens' and womens' expectation of what is happening between them....
You have fallen in love with your married-man friend and expect that he has fallen in love with you... so will move mountains to be with you...
HE has found a convenient sex partner... who has contented herself with the crumbs of his life that he is willing to make available to him.... AND he has absolutely no reason to upset the "other" life he has.....
P.S. EVERYTHING he "reveals" to you about his marriage is PURE fabrication (you may substitute "bullsh*t" for "fabrication.").....
Sorry... hope things get better for you after you dump this guy....
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