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writes:Hi i am 16 years old and have never had a boyfriend. I really like this guy but I know he doesn't like me in return and even if he does I don't have the confidence to ask him out. The thing is I am just too nice: i have good manners, i am polite and to be honest don't think I am loud enough for guys to even notice. I am too nice. I wish I could be a bad girl but I dont want to go against my morals and lose my virginity to just anyone. What should I do to gain confidence and get a boyfriend? Thanks x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 April 2012):
 NEVER be anything other than yourself…. DO NOT compromise your beliefs or morals or ethics to get a boy because then he is not really a person that will mesh well with the way you will want to live your life…
Trust me when I tell you that being nice, mannerly and moral will in the long run be the best thing for you… just because this boy looks nice (and trust me hon, that’s all it is… he’s easy on the eyes) does not make him a good partner.
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (2 April 2012):
 You need to stop thinking like that! Bad girls don't get the guy, that's a stereotype!
Bad girls get the stupid horny teenage douchebag boys who only want to get laid.
Good girls get good guys who actually like them.
If you like this guy and the ONLY way he'll notice you is if you act "bad", then you are falling for the WRONG GUY!
If he only pays attention to bad girls, then that obviously means he wants a slutty girl to party with and F****. I'm sorry this is so blunt, but that's just how I am.
Trust me on this, you DO NOT need to change who you are to get a guy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012): Yeah just sleep with anyone you can make yourself look like a total slapper,go off the rails,get steaming drunk,made a arse of yourself in front of him at any opportunity.
THEN he'll only notice the sweet,polite,lovely girl he used to know just turned into a monster.
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (1 April 2012):
 Do you want him to like you or do you want him to like the person you're pretending to be? If you pretend to be someone it would be very hard to keep it up for long. You sound like a nice person, just be true to yourself.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 April 2012):
What a great idea!!!... compromise EVERYTHING that you know is "right".... so that you'll "look" like a "bad" girl.... this for some guy who isn't worth it.....
Have you detected the satire in my reply???? If "No," then, please recognize, that that's ALL my reply is....
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reader, bluntasaspoon +, writes (1 April 2012):
 be exactly who you are and whatever you do dont worry about losing your v plates, i know someone who lost his at 18, and he was good looking and had the girls after him all the time. but he waited until he found the right person. you shouldn't change who you are to be with someone. if you cant be yourself with them then whats the point?
loves n hugs
bluntasaspoon x
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