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female
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anonymous
writes:I have a boyfriend of almost 2 years. Recently, we got into a huge fight and we broke up. During the time we broke up, we still see each other and hang out. Finally, we got back together after 5 days.Few days after, my friend told me that I should break up with him because he is cheating on me with a girl in his class. When I confronted him, he acknowledged this girl but didn't tell me the details. Since we just got back together, I decided to let it slip.However, this girl contacted me and convinced me that he was cheating. He told me how he talked to her and complimented her all the time. I was shocked because this girl is definitely not his type!!! She is the kind of girl we love to make fun of when we are people watching. This is what he said and she said:1. She said he asked her to go out on a date with him; he said he asked her to hangout sometimes, not to date her. He even sent her a text making it clear that he didn't want to date her.2. He complemented her because she complemented him first. He said it feels good having someone other than me compliment him.The rest revolves around it.They just had a thing for about 2 weeks until he completely stopped talking to her. So the time they had the thing is a few days before and after we broke up.He is back with me now and he said the reason why is because he misses me and he realized he made a mistake. When I told him to confront the girl, he did. He called her in front of me (without her knowing) and emphasized that he does not and never did like her. She sounded hurt on the phone, but I'm never too sure.After that phone call, she texted me saying that if I need to know anything else from her, she is there to answer. She sent all the texts he ever sent her and I witnessed how he flirts. He however never failed to mention me from now and then, saying how he still needs to see me because he doesn't want to hurt me and how he thinks that I'm troubling him.I asked him why he texts so, he said that he is trying to be nice. This girl has a problem of being an attention seeker and he wanted to "end" things nicely with her. Obviously things didn't end nicely between them because of that harsh phone call.They never kissed, never had sex, and never hang out outside school (when I'm working and he has nothing to do). I cheated on him before during the time we got together, although the actions were worst (I kissed one of them and went on a date with the other), we never had so much problems. I am starting to think that the problem is so big because of the girl?I want to forgive my boyfriend, I really do. But everytime I decided to do so, new questions pop in my head and I would ask this girl again, which will led to us arguing. And the image of him complimenting her and chosing her over me hurt me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): I'm with "Sageoldguy1465" - you are behaving like 12 year olds.
Oh, and just one question, what gives you and your boyfriend the right to make fun of anyone when you are people watching? Do you know what shallow, unpleasant people you sound like?
I think you and your boyfriend are perfect for one another and shouldn't inflict yourselves on the rest of the population. Stay together.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (28 March 2012):
 I don't see how this relationship can POSSIBLY work. You cheated on him, he's obviously still cheating on you (after he had been already), and you've already broken up. There is no trust in your relationship anymore. If you stay one of you is always going to be wondering if there is any hank panky going on. It sounds like the start of a never ending series of revenge "cheats." You cheat on him, he cheats on you, etc... I think you should cut your losses and move on and not cheat on your next boyfriend.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (28 March 2012):
 I read your submittal, in its entirety, three times... before I took a moment to look up (again) at the heading and learn that you are "A female (flag) 22-25,".... and then, this question hit ME: Why are you and this guy and this other girl acting like 12-year-olds????????
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