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writes:So I'm talking to this girl who likes me, and I really like her. Its been almost a week, and things are going great but my best friend is getting in the way sorta now. He just found out today that we are talking and the first thing he said was "don't date her". When I aked why he said because she's talking to another guy from another school. My friend is probably the most gullible guy I know so I wouldn't be suprised if he just over heard a conversation wrong and took it to heart. But I'm kinda scared. Her best friend is a guy and he went over to her house the other night while I was at work. She promised me she doesn't like him that way, but I still feel a knot in my stomach. I trust her, I just, feel succeptable to what other people say. I know her friend plays girls for sex. And I don't really want her hanging out with him but I don't say anything just to respect her. I'm thinking about just asking her if what my best friend said about her talking to another guy is true? Should I? Or can anyone tell me another way to do this? I really like her and don't wanna lose her. Even though I'm fairly sure I'm not good enough for her when you boil it down.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (10 December 2009):
Your friend is probably just trying to look out for you so you don't get hurt. He may be right or he might be wrong. Either way, if you like her and want her to be your girlfriend in the future, you might have to step up your game. Just because she's talking to another guy doesn't mean anything and she may not even be sure that you like her. Maybe they've been talking for a while and he won't do crap and neither are you. She could just talk to him because he's her friend or she talks to him when she's bored. I certainly wouldn't want someone I like to not date me because I was talking to someone else. You can't just make assumptions.
Get to know her more to make sure that you really do like her and that she really does like you, and if you decide that you want to be exclusive, that's when you can ask if she's talking to someone else to find out if it's something serious or anything that you should worry about. When she asks why, then that's a good opener for the "wanting to be exclusive" talk.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (10 December 2009):
 oh, you are talking to her, and considering asking her on a date, but you already feel you have the right to decide who she can talk to and hang out with?
If you are that unsure and have a knot in your stomach just dont ask her out, nobody is holding a gun to your head, or hers.
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