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writes:Why do girls always stay with guys that they either dont like or are mean to them?I liked this one girl a few years back and i wanted to be with her but she had a boyfriend, and she would tell me that she kinda liked me and could see something but didnt do anything because she had a BF, but would say that she wasnt happy with him, and that hes kinda a jerk. And now im in a similar situation where i like a girl whos taken and she likes me but shes with a guy who is mean to her and she said they are both unhappy.Why do girls stay with guys that they arent happy with? is it the fact that they have someone? even though they may be a jerk or mean, they can go home to them THAT night?I dont get it Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): Maybe the 'too nice guys' (normal guys) seem too easy, like they think/know they aren't good enough. So that's what they become, in girls' eyes.
The 'bad boys' project that they are good enough, and seem to have higher standards by treating girls like crap. And the girls try to live up to their standards. Could be more of an addiction than love.
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (6 December 2009):
 Well, its true that women will put up with a lot more than guys will.
If a woman acted like a jerk to a guy, he would leave her, but if its the other way round, she just puts up with it.
Maybe woman form more emotional attachments earlier on?
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (6 December 2009):
The first reason is like what CaringGuy mentioned, which is that a lot of women think that they can change a man. They like the idea of being able to make this unappreciative guy see what he has in front of him and make him appreciate what he has (although he never will) and become the man that they want him to be, which would be a nice guy.
The second reason is that the woman is insecure. She knows he's bad and will never change, but she doesn't think that she can do any better (and don't forget it's also because she "loves him" for whatever reason). So she accepts his emotional or even physical abuse because she doesn't think she can do any better or that all guys are this way and will treat her that way so she might as well stay with him.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (6 December 2009):
Some girls do it because of the excitement, some do it because it's a way of rebelling. But I asked a girl once, and she said she liked the idea of being able to turn a bad boy into a good boy that would love her, because she knew it was her that he really loved and would settle down with.
Reality is, whatever the reason, they always get hurt, because bad boys rarely change.
Look for a girl who is single and confident about herself, rather than a girl who looks like she needs to be rescued from a bad boy. There is a woman out there somewhere who will love you, and not some bad boy.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 December 2009):
They do it because they are idiots.
Any girl with a brain would leave a man who didn't treat them right.
Try and meet girls with some common sense.
You do meet these girls who are taken, and then KEEP seeing them until you are smitten knowing you have no chance. Why do you keep doing that?
Good Luck!! xx
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