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writes:I come from a strict European background and up until recently I haven't dated much. I'm 23 and still live at home (I support my parents financially). I don't talk to my mom about guys or anything like that...she's never talked to me about it either. She's a great person over all but she's very 'prude.' She's not religious though. I've been with my bf for 4 months now and we're sleeping together. I now want to stay over at his but I am so scared to bring it up with my mom in case she reacts badly to it. I know that she won't stop me but I don't want to cause tension between me and her. I expect her to disapprove.I know I'm an adult and I can do whatever I want but it's so hard to tell her. I can't really move out right now because the way our living arrangements are. My mom's 30 years older than me and grew up in a different country and a different time. I can't be expected to live like she did, right?What do I say to her? p.s. she's met my boyfriend twice now. Reply to this Question
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reader, Donna81  +, writes (8 December 2009):
 You are an adult and you are helping with the finances, that makes you responsible for your decisions and actions.
Tell her you are going somewhere and you'll see her in the morning.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (8 December 2009):
Well you can just tell her and have tension. Or you can tell a white lie. My parents aren't strict at all, but even when I did live with them, my boyfriend of a couple years that they had met many times would ask me to stay at his place. My parents know that I'm not "innocent" but I didn't really like them knowing I was staying the night at my boyfriend's. Instead, I told them I was staying the night at a girlfriend's. Personally, I think in some situations, what they don't know won't hurt them.
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reader, raquel18 +, writes (8 December 2009):
hmmmm... is their anyway that you could say your sleeping somewhere else for the night and just sleep at his place anyway?? that what i do.. i mean you cant get introuble your 23 do you have to tell her where your sleeping?
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