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*ennifer Nicole
writes:Let me know if I am wrong here seriously.This guy I were friends with for many years. He had a girlfriend. She hated me cause we were friends. NOTHING happened!!This girl moved in. He swore to me he did not ask her-that she just brought her stuff and moved in! I'm not believing it. She asked him to not be friends with me... so supposedly he asked her to leave. He uses this to prove he "chose me" over her but I am thinking she left him. Right after she left/they broke up he tells me he loves me. He has been asking me for a year to move in and marry him.His friends are (after 2 years) still friends with her. These people were not before they dated just to be clear. They hate me because of what happened. They have even gone as far as telling me she is pregnant by him so I will leave.He does not get why I will not hang out with them!!His other friend shows naked pics of himself his gf to everyone--even at a kid's birthday party. I am disgusted and fed up! When I said something about it he said I was overreacting and it was their choice to show people.If he cared about me would he confront the friends about what they r doing? Or am I crazy? Why would he ask me to move in if he didn't care? Or am I just kinda a "replacement" for the last girl?Is he lying like I suspect about the girlfriend "tricking him" and moving in??Should I try talking to him or just give it up? We haven't talked in weeks.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (7 December 2009):
It sounds like this guy is BSing both you and his friends. I also doubt that she just brought her stuff and started moving in. No person that wasn't ready or wasn't comfortable with someone moving in would tell them and not let them move in. I think you're probably right. And it's refreshing to see someone who's not so gullible.
I also think if his friends suddenly "hate" you, he must be making you out to be the bad guy in all this. He probably knows he's done something wrong and taking the heat off of himself and making you the scapegoat for whatever the reason is for the ending of their relationship.
As far as his friends, I think he should have stuck up for you. It is inappropriate in any setting to show nude phots of yourself and your girlfriend. What kind of friends does he have??? I don't have ANY friends like this, or know anyone who does. What weirdos!
I think this guys is shady for sure. If you can't trust him now, definitely don't move in with him. I would go with walking away. You're probably going to end up hurt and miserable, so save yourself the trouble and the drama.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (7 December 2009):
I think you've wandered into a mess you didn't see coming (I don't blame you or anything). This guy seems like he doesn't know what he wants or anything.
My advice, let him go. You have't spoken in weeks, which proves he isn't all that bothered to be honest. And to say he was 'tricked' just about says it all.
Find another guy.
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