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I've gone through quite a few relationships! Some were great and some were down right terrible!
I really enjoy trying to help people get through relationship woes. Sometimes they can be life consuming and everyone can use a little help from time-to-time.
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Was I too pushy with him?
Q. My husband and i are in the process of getting a divorce and so is his sister and her husband. well last wek her husband and i made out and talked on the phone for an hour and had phone sex. we both said we liked it and he told me to call him ...
A. 20 January 2010: Yeah, you totally blew anything you had in the future with him. Sorry to be blunt, but from what he said to you, it's pretty apparent that he's not interested in you. I know you feel bad already and I don't mean to pour salt into a wound, but you ... (read in full...)
Did my FWB actually ever like me or was I just some random girl to him?
Q. Guys, your point of view would be interesting. So I met this guy, not interested in him at first but he was in me..very interested. I decided what the hell, give it a shot, and we started dating. First off, I slept with him on the first date. ...
A. 19 January 2010: You might want a man's perspective, but it's pretty easy to figure out. If you tell a guy that you want to be FWB, believe it or not, they're usually okay with it. You told him that, so he went with it. You were his friend with benefits...you ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of me being pregnant?
Q. My period started on the 4th, so I started taking my birth control that same day, for the first time in 5ish months.. Period was normal. Well Saturday, 16, my boyfriend accidentally came inside of me, whats the chances of me being pregnant?...
A. 19 January 2010: Umm well don't know what the chances are, you can ovulate at any time. But if you're taking the pill, if it's the first 30-days you're supposed to use a backup method because the pill isn't really effective the first month. So unless you took Plan ... (read in full...)
I had sex using a condom and I had my period twice since then, but I get the feeling I am pregnant!
Q. Hi Am kadzy, 21 years old and i had sex for the last time with my guy on the 13 of novenber 2009,thou we used a condom and i have seen my period twice since then even thou they were like,i dont have the normal pregnancy signs but am feeling pregnant...
A. 19 January 2010: You're not having any regular pregnancy symptoms but you "feel pregnant" and you you've gotten your period twice AND he used a condom. Chances are pretty good that you're NOT pregnant, but instead of coming on here and asking silly questions, get a ... (read in full...)
Why is my army boyfriend communicating with me less?
Q. Okay so my boyfriend is in the army and we've been been dating for a year and a half. The first three months he left me for basice training was real hard because we barely communicated but i received letters during his absence every week or so and ...
A. 19 January 2010: Sorry to say it, and I know it's something you don't want to hear, but it sounds like he's over it. It's not anything you did, but he's VERY far away from you and LDR are VERY hard. Rather than manning up and ending things, he's stringing you ... (read in full...)
Is my soon to be ex husband's friend off limits?
Q. My husband and I have been apart since 2003/2004. He started using drugs/alcohol and abondoned his family in 2004. He has caused nothing but pain and anguish... but I did try to stick it out because of my wedding vows and our child. Over the years, ...
A. 19 January 2010: I'm really not trying to be mean here, but how come out of the millions of men on this earth you want to be with your soon-to-be exhusband's childhood friend? You know this is going to cause even more drama after everything is said and done. ... (read in full...)
I am profoundly hurt over her behavior!
Q. My boyfriend proposed recently and gave me a beautiful ring. We have been together for over 6 years and we are very happy. I called my best gf's first and the one that I thought was my very best friend, said she was at a bar and too drunk to talk. ...
A. 19 January 2010: Well there may be some truth to what she's saying. She is your very best friend, and usually if they figure someone makes you happy then they won't try to step on anyone's toes and tell you that she doesn't like him or think he's good enough for ... (read in full...)
I wanna lose weight! Any tips?
Q. can someone help me understand how many calories I might have to eat a day to lose weight.. I am 27 yrs old I weigh approx. 205lbs and am 5'7 , I did the bmr math thing but it doesn't seem to be rite.. im hoping to lose 2lbs a week if possible. ...
A. 19 January 2010: I'm not sure if it differs upon weight or height, but I've heard that for women if you want to lose weight, as far as calorie intake it should be around 1200 calories a day; also make sure you exercise (don't overdo it) and drink plenty of water. I ... (read in full...)
Should I be friends with my ex
Q. Last week, my boyfriend broke up with me (for the third time but this time I don't want to get back together)because he had enough with all the stress from me, school, and family (his parents are breaking up and he would had to get a part-time job ...
A. 19 January 2010: This question was posted yesterday.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-offered-to-be-a-fwb-he-agreed.html... (read in full...)
Is an old, young looking guy going out with a young woman, creepy?
Q. If a guy is 45, but literally looks 27, and goes out with a 20 year old, is that creepy?...
A. 19 January 2010: If the guy looks 27, then no. If he looks 28, then yes.
Depends on the person, some people would say that you'd be old enough to be her father and it's wrong while others would say that you're both adults so it's no big deal. I wouldn't... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend and her friend cooked up a scheme to get back at me
Q. So, I went out with this girl for maybe 3 weeks. A the end of the three weeks, she dropped me for occasionally saying stupid (not mean, just stupid) things, and not calling her on a holiday. I tried to get her back for maybe a week then about a week ...
A. 18 January 2010: Yes, it happens. Even if girls are supposed to be made of sugar and spice and everything nice...we can be quite evil. I think it depends a lot on the maturity level of the girl and what it is you did. If you screw over a girl that's on the ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed, we broke up and while I was home crying he was off having sex with lots of different girls, now he wants me back
Q. My bf broke up with me, then went out and had sex with a bunch of random girls, and now he wants me back after 2 weeks of being broken up for. Why would he do this? He says he realises it was all a mistake and that he didnt appreciate what he had ...
A. 18 January 2010: Wow your boyfriend/exboyfriend whoever he is, is a real jerk. He went out to bang other chicks for 2-weeks and now realizes that you're the one? Hahahaha, what an idiot!
So in other words, if you decide to take him back he will now know that whe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a body fluid fetishes
Q. My boyfriend is into all fluids that are produced by the body and his "fetish" has now gotten out of control. He wants me to take a laxative before anal sex so that i can s!%t on him during sex. If he's in my anus will the poop come out?.... and ...
A. 18 January 2010: LOL, I'm just trying to get a clearer idea, celiaaletta. Maybe I've just never loved before...maybe you find your true love when you can't say "no" to a good fresh, steaming crap on your stomach.... (read in full...)
Why does he still contact me after we parted ways?
Q. I dated a guy for 9 months, then he moved to another city. I liked him more than he liked me, and I'm having trouble getting over him even though it's been months. So I do the right thing, try not to contact him, but if I go longer than a week wit...
A. 18 January 2010: He may not necessarily want anything but for you to pay attention to him and for you to stroke his ego once a week. I say, if you're fine with that then talk to him when he contacts you (but don't expect any sort of relationship to occur), if you ... (read in full...)
Was I too pushy with him?
Q. My husband and i are in the process of getting a divorce and so is his sister and her husband. well last wek her husband and i made out and talked on the phone for an hour and had phone sex. we both said we liked it and he told me to call him ...
A. 18 January 2010: Umm well...you madeout with him and phone sex with him, texted him daily and told him later on that it was a "mistake" which would kind of make a person feel slightly crappy that you basically told them that you regretted what happened, then you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a body fluid fetishes
Q. My boyfriend is into all fluids that are produced by the body and his "fetish" has now gotten out of control. He wants me to take a laxative before anal sex so that i can s!%t on him during sex. If he's in my anus will the poop come out?.... and ...
A. 18 January 2010: So if he told you to jump off a cliff and kill yourself, no wouldn't be an option because you love him? If he wanted to eat your crap afterward would you also follow through because you love him?
But just to answer your question, if you took... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a body fluid fetishes
Q. My boyfriend is into all fluids that are produced by the body and his "fetish" has now gotten out of control. He wants me to take a laxative before anal sex so that i can s!%t on him during sex. If he's in my anus will the poop come out?.... and ...
A. 18 January 2010: I agree, you have a lot of options and NO is one of them. Seriously...feces that's just dirty and he could get an infection and that potentially puts you in danger of getting one. If you don't want to do it, you can say no and you should. It ... (read in full...)
I offered to be a FWB, he agreed but now he isnt talking to me
Q. Last week, my boyfriend broke up with me (for the third time but this time I don't want to get back together)because he had enough with all the stress from me, school, and family (his parents are breaking up and he would had to get a part-time job ...
A. 18 January 2010: When you agree to be friends with benefits with an ex, they tend to lose respect for you. Meaning that he now knows you'll be there when he needs you and he can come and go and talk to you when he feels like it. Basically, FWB usually benefits the ... (read in full...)
Wife number two doesn't like children of wife number one, I have them once a week, and every week she complains
Q. Should I leave my 2nd wife? She and the kids from the 1st wife don't click well at all, I've tried so many things but noting helped, the kids stay with us every Sunday, by Sunday evening she always bitch to me about them, so my week is always m...
A. 18 January 2010: Have you told her any of this? If not, she needs to know. Maybe you can find out then if your wife is being unreasonable and just bitching because that's what she likes to do or if it's out of jealousy; or perhaps she doesn't like them because ... (read in full...)
It's so unfair, I should be able to date who I want to!!!
Q. well hi there it's kind of a long story but anyway here it is I have met a guy after a year he asked me to marry him, we are completely coming from different culture he is christian and I'm Muslim he changed his religion as I can't marry someone ...
A. 17 January 2010: I understand that, but if your government is what you find to be unfair and you don't have the right to marry who you want, I would assume you wouldn't want to live there anyway. But that's a big compromise, I understand that. But I come from a ... (read in full...)
I feel I am being pulled into a relationship I'm not ready for yet
Q. I'm 25 and I've been dating this girl who is 22 for about 2 months now and everything has been fine. However, recently she brought her five year old daughter to live with her which changes the dynamic of our relationship considerably. Originall...
A. 17 January 2010: Personally, I kind of think her 5-year old was taught to tell you that she wants you to marry her mom. But if you don't think so, since you were there and not me, you might be a better judge; but I just don't see a kid coming up with that on their ... (read in full...)
How can I not talk to her but still have her in my future?
Q. So Im caught in the crossfire with two girls, check it out here's the situation. Ive been with this one female going on four years, i devirginized her, showed her what she know's, and everything. Only thing is over the years i put her through hell, ...
A. 17 January 2010: I think you'll be respected once you start respecting women...rather than how you can put one on the backburner then manipulate and emotionally abuse the other one.... (read in full...)
It's so unfair, I should be able to date who I want to!!!
Q. well hi there it's kind of a long story but anyway here it is I have met a guy after a year he asked me to marry him, we are completely coming from different culture he is christian and I'm Muslim he changed his religion as I can't marry someone ...
A. 17 January 2010: If your parents are very traditional, I highly doubt you'll be able to change their minds. You know them better than I do, but others I have known in your situation--their parents don't budge.
If your passport and the things that you'll lose are... (read in full...)
Will he be locked up for getting me pregnant?
Q. I'am 17 and pregnant by my boyfriend who is 23 and i want be 18 until feb.23.2010 this year can he get locked up even if i didnt want him to and my mother know's how old he is and she's okay with the age difference? ...
A. 17 January 2010: I meant to type mother and/or father...... (read in full...)
Will he be locked up for getting me pregnant?
Q. I'am 17 and pregnant by my boyfriend who is 23 and i want be 18 until feb.23.2010 this year can he get locked up even if i didnt want him to and my mother know's how old he is and she's okay with the age difference? ...
A. 17 January 2010: If your mother and/or is okay with it, then usually it's fine. Typically the older boyfriend gets in trouble when the parents call the authorities and press charges. So no, the authorities probably won't be waiting at the hospital to arrest him ... (read in full...)
Does the guy have to be hard to have sex?
Q. Ok. So I see people saying on here when their guy looses their "hardness" they don't do sex after that. So I was just curious does the guy have be hard to have sex??...
A. 17 January 2010: Yes, that is a requirement. You know when you're trying to thread string thru the eye of the needle? If it's all floppy then it's really hard to try to get thru the eye, but then when you make it stiff it makes it way easier to thread? Pretty ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is perfect so why am I still looking?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for somewhat more than a year now. I'm 24, she's 20, I have a college degree from a top school, and have a stable well paying job. She's in college. I'm pretty intelligent and am fit. She's in good shape too and does ...
A. 17 January 2010: It sounds like you're starting to wonder if the grass is greener on the other side. And it's true, you two are young so you have to also consider timing and if she's really the right person for you. You sound like a mature enough guy and realize ... (read in full...)
How can I not talk to her but still have her in my future?
Q. So Im caught in the crossfire with two girls, check it out here's the situation. Ive been with this one female going on four years, i devirginized her, showed her what she know's, and everything. Only thing is over the years i put her through hell, ...
A. 17 January 2010: Are you for real???
The old girlfriend annoys you and makes you mad, but you want a future with her? You want her to settle down and be committed, yet you're the one that wants to juggle two girls and string one along for sex?
Seriously, cu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's life has gone pearshaped and there is no room in it for me right now
Q. My boyfriend who's now my ex just broke up with me two weeks ago. He used the line " I think we should take a break" I"m trying to move on but can't help but wonder, what if. Were both young I'm 20 and he's 22. He says he has alot on his plate and ...
A. 17 January 2010: I'm only being harsh because you come here for advice and you don't want to take it. I've been there done that, I'm not here to kiss anyone's ass so that they like my answers, it's reality. So you can go ahead and like the advice of someone that's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's life has gone pearshaped and there is no room in it for me right now
Q. My boyfriend who's now my ex just broke up with me two weeks ago. He used the line " I think we should take a break" I"m trying to move on but can't help but wonder, what if. Were both young I'm 20 and he's 22. He says he has alot on his plate and ...
A. 16 January 2010: Jesus, quit playing such a victim. It's hard because he keeps "reeling" you in. That's why I said to not have anymore contact with him, I explained it to you. Ignore his phone calls and don't call him. Be a strong person for once in your life ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's life has gone pearshaped and there is no room in it for me right now
Q. My boyfriend who's now my ex just broke up with me two weeks ago. He used the line " I think we should take a break" I"m trying to move on but can't help but wonder, what if. Were both young I'm 20 and he's 22. He says he has alot on his plate and ...
A. 16 January 2010: No, don't wait around for him, that's the WORST thing you could do for yourself. I and many other girls have fallen into the same trap, and yes, he's just going to string you along. He'll keep stringing you along and at times it will even feel ... (read in full...)
I want an orgy but my boyfriend is dead against it!
Q. im a freak. i love sex and sexual experiences. recently i've been craving an orgy. i told my bf about this and he was -so- not into the thought. he said he didn't and wasn't going to share me, and vice versa. is he being selfish?! or did i ask for ...
A. 16 January 2010: No, he's not being selfish. Like many questions on here, are the women on here that don't agree to have a threesome with their husband/boyfriend and someone else selfish because they say "no"? I would say that anyone who is uncomfortable sexually ... (read in full...)
I want to self induce, & I don't care if its not scientifically proven
Q. Hello all. My question is simple really. How do you self - induce labor? I am 39 weeks pregnant with my first baby. My doctor told me that if I have not begun labor within a week and half they will have to induce me. I really prefer not to have to ...
A. 16 January 2010: Eating pizza??? Haha..sorry but that's funny. I've heard of sex and walking. Do what's safe, I don't think running and jumping is a good idea. Eating pizza tastes good, might as well eat it for the heck of it. Maybe if you eat pizza while ... (read in full...)
A general enquiry about sex and pregnancy and timing
Q. Lets say you have unprotected sex two weeks before your period is due to start. If you were to get pregnant would you still have your period that month...like two weeks after you have sex?...
A. 16 January 2010: Pregnancy=no period.... (read in full...)
How can I get it through my sister's head that I can't and will not raise her kid for her?
Q. When my sister had her daughter, I promised to help her take care of her (for example, babysit her while she's at school). I never promised to raise her kid for her. My sister is a very blessed (aka spoiled) fifteen year old, who got involved wit...
A. 16 January 2010: Well first of all, she's still your parents' responsibililty regardless if they're busy, she's only 15! I say you need to have a talk with your parents and tell them that she nor her child are your responsibility and that she needs to quit the ... (read in full...)
I'm really worried about a date I was on tonight...
Q. I'm really worried about a date I went on tonight. I was really nervous throughout the date, my shyness always seems to get the better of me. As a result I didn't express myself as much as i'd have liked to. We went for a drink first which calm...
A. 16 January 2010: To be honest, no one will know what was going through his mind except for him. But it doesn't sound like the date went bad at all. For all you know he's thinking that he wasn't quite himself. We can all be that way, I often feel that way. I'm ... (read in full...)
Is this bipolar... or something else?
Q. I think my ex has bipolar disorder but im not very sure. His sister is bipolar, and his dad died about 2 years ago. He hasnt been the same ever since, and goes through these phases of changes it seems like even if he is in a relationship, usually he ...
A. 16 January 2010: No...I wouldn't say so. My ex is bipolar, and he does seem to jump from relationship to relationship and try to move things along quickly, then gets bored or has an episode, disappears and ends up with someone new.
If that's all you have that wou... (read in full...)
Humiliation in front of my classmates... was it my fault?
Q. Around a year and a half ago a fairly new teacher started teaching me for my Spanish course. The first few weeks of term were relatively normal, as I came into the school year two weeks late as I was on holiday I had missed some of the syllabus. I ...
A. 16 January 2010: Umm wow! This teacher is EXTREMELY inappropriate! You need to report her to the dean or principal because you felt that she was sexually harassing you, then started taking things personally and canceling the lessons that could effect your grade ... (read in full...)
Do you guys believe in bad luck? What do you think about my situation?
Q. Do you guys believe in bad luck? Please tell me what you think...Oh let me tell you about my last years of life. Family members died, 2 pets died, failed 5 year relationship, car was stolen, washer broke, furnace broke, water heater broke, b...
A. 16 January 2010: I kind of do, but a lot of stuff is coinsidence too.
Think about this; family dies especially if they're old, pets die especially if they're old. The 5-year relationship failed because obviously it wasn't going anywhere, after 5-years someone ... (read in full...)
When ever I go without sex I get angry and break stuff
Q. Im sexually frustrated. When i dont have sex for long periods of time, i become very angry and rude. For example, one time i broke my kitchen window n my dishes cuz i didnt get laid. Its been a week since i had sex. My bf hasnt been over. He knows ...
A. 15 January 2010: Hmmm...any sort of abuse in your past? It's not normal to be angry the way that you are over not having sex, especially only after a week. If you were me, you probably would have killed someone by now! You really should find some sort of ... (read in full...)
I am acting like a jerk because I want her to break up with me
Q. I think I need serious help. I haven't been happy one day in the past 3-4 months after I left my ex. I'm starting to get worried, i'm constantly thinking about her, and I'm always missing her. I'm with a girl I dont even like, I have lately stopped ...
A. 15 January 2010: What you should do is: grow a pair and dump your current girlfriend instead of just ignoring her (that's a VERY douchey move there) and move on from the ex. The more you hold on to this girl the bigger pushover you look like. You don't need some ... (read in full...)
I wouldnt have gone, but I am upset I wasnt invited
Q. So after thinking im over my ex. I find out he;s having a bday party today and remembering the fact that he insisted we be friends and telling me beforehand that whenever he;s having a bday gig that id be openly invited and that he wanted to see me ...
A. 14 January 2010: You didn't do anything wrong! Maybe he just felt that you wouldn't be comfortable going, that you'd say no anyway, maybe he invited another girl and didn't want there to be drama...who knows. But it's not because you're an awful person and did ... (read in full...)
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