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Five years in, do we want out?

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Question - (5 July 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 5 July 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, *uckyniji13 writes:

We have been together nearly 5 years and have 3 year old together. Our love is unexplainable...is it lacking passiona nd romance. We go through the motions everyday. I honestly think we are trying too hard, forcing, and not 'seeing' each other in the same eyes as we first met. We are critical of each other and he doesn't appreciate anything that intersts me at all. I never get compliments or a helping hand or anything that signifies simply a nice gesture. I have tried so hard to win him over, over and over. He has been sitant in the last few weeks his excuse is always 'im tired' and I think he is hiding how he really feels. Are we staying together for our child? Are we growing apart? I can't get him to open up, I have tried writing him, talking to him, everything numerous times. What to do?

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A female reader, pepper27 United Kingdom +, writes (5 July 2010):

pepper27 agony auntHi Hunny

Have you tryed not saying a word, I dont mean not talking to your partner I mean just for the time being ignore his distance towards you, Act quite normal on a day to day basis be nice and try and be happy but ignore anything to do with his distance..

You say you have tryed everything, Writing, Talking. So he knows how you feel..He hasnt tryed to help your situation he knows you are worried and concerned, He is ignoring your pleas for some sign he understands and wants to do something to better your situation..

Frustrating and heartbeaking isn't it...So reverse it and try and carry on as hard as it may be saying not one word, Be happy and scream when he is not around talk to a friend, but dont let it show to him..This hunny may make him think, I say may, If you are doing all the worrying and showing you care about how unhappy you feel things have got. What does he need to do you love him he knows, Maybe he needs to feel a little of what you are feeling..

If you need to talk again message me TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXX

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