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writes:I need some help. I met this guy online 8 months ago. We have been dating for 7 months now. I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer just before we met. I told him the first night we met that I just had surgery and there was a chance that I would have to have chemo and he still wanted to date me. He has been with me all through the Chemo and radiation. He is the most kind caring thoughtful man I have ever met. He is AWESOME! My problem is that about 1 month ago he told me that he was not crazy about me..in a head over heels kinda way.What? really? Just kinda out of the blue. We talked about it and I told him that I wasn't sure I was in love with him either but that we had been dealing with such a traumatic situation that maybe when its over we can see if our small flame burst into a roaring fire. Now I am worried that one day out of the blue he is just going to dump me. Everything he does and says other than this one thing tells me that he is totally into me. Any insight?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2011): Thanks for the insight. I hope it is just more time he needs. I know I could very easily fall in love with this guy but now because he was so honest I am scared to let loose. Last time he fell in love was over 15 years ago and was 23 and fell totally head over heels. He was badly hurt when his relationship ended 3 years ago. I know he has feelings for me that are stronger than he leads on or why else would he have stuck around through all this. It just feels better hearing someone else's opinion. Thanks again!
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (5 March 2011):
 Hi HunNow first please excuse any spelling mistakes so forth as Im on my phone and its not an easy one to work with:-DI read you post more than once, Hun sometimes in life when we least expect it when we are most def at our lowest something happens that helps us get through. And that sweetheart I believe has happened to you with your AWSOME Guy. You started dating in hard circumstances anyway, To have to tell the guy you so obviously liked alot that you had breast surgery must have taken alot but he stayed put.You havent had time to have normal dates that turn into a relationship but yet he is still there.Maybe just maybe you to havent had the time to fall crazy inlove and that does not suprise me. But he is still there!I canot tell you how this will work out and truely Im hoping you two fall madly inlove and are really happy. After what you have been through you deserve the very best. And go get him girl because your angel is STILL THERE! I so hope and pray this works out for you WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2011): Hopefully, he's not playing any game with you. I'd say he just needs more time for his feelings to develop. Sometimes feelings for couples dont come at the same time... Im having that happen now actually lol...but im patient as I know the girl has protected her heart. I think he just needs more time and on your end more patience to see things develop. Also, the stress of your health can be a part of that as stress can affect mood in a big way meaning he may need more time to come around, which isnt your fault at all. I hope your battle continues to progress and you have all my best with your health. Hugs :)
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