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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2012): I Am 23 and i often text a guy i've been talking too and sleeping with for the past 5 months he has a gf and i text him late at night like 1 2 or even 3 ....sorry but most likely he is cheating ..
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 May 2012):
 my phone gets texts when facebook updates no matter what tie of day or night.. also auto texts from dentists and doctors and my calendar reminders...
but if you are close enough that you are sleeping together by all means ASK.
just be prepared for
a. the truth which might hurt
or
b. lies because the truth might hurt
Remember to never ask a question you are not prepared to hear the answer to.
I'd personally say the next time the phone went off, "hey hon who's texting you in the middle of the night"
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): Go to the phone, pick it up and look at the msg. It will display on the screen for a few seconds even if the phone is locked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): I had the same kind of problem a while back with my boyfriend but his phone was ringing.?? It was 2:00 am... I did ask him who it was. He said it was his ex girlfriend and she sometimes calls or texts him late at night drunk coming home from the bar...!!?? I said this shit has to stop! I basically told him it was time to grow the f*** up. So, Yeah :D Ask him about it. Don't be mean, but find out for yourself. Good luck!
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 Hi
You can ask, but with iphones it could be anything. If it wakes you just ask him to switch it off..Mines on charge through the night
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reader, roxanneian +, writes (7 May 2012):
sometimes at nights you can get a credit reminder not always but sometimes you wake up find your phone and its your phone providers reminder message.you shouldnt be scared to ask him anyways and he should be telling you who texted him its just trust and suspicion but do you suspect anyone in particular? ask him to show you the text he got and if he doesnt its dodgy if he shows you his phone and its deleted its dodgy. doesnt mean he is cheating on you it could be other issues.but if you had a phone you could get texts too off nobody as well early hours all is fair x it shouldnt be a problem if he is honest with you and he got nothing to hide from you
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (7 May 2012):
 Nothing wrong with asking. It's a perfectly valid question, as long as you don't ask it in an accusing way. It could be a wrong number.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): It is perfetly fine to ask him who is texting him so late, I would mention that it is disturbing your sleep, if it is.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (7 May 2012):
 I think it would be perfectly fine to start off by mentioning that the sound of his phone going off late at night tends to wake you up - if it does - does he check his phone when this occurs, by the way?
See what he says. I agree that its certainly very odd to be getting texts that time of night.........
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): To be honest.. If I am sleeping with someone and his phone sounds at that time..like u said 2-4 am...Of course I will ask!!
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reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (7 May 2012):
Are you sure it's a text and not an email? Or a Twitter notification?
On my phone both make a noise like I got a text.
Do you see the phone light up? Is so - it's a text and if you're near the phone you will see it.
And I would say - yes - absolutely - ask in a non accusatory way. If you are boyfriend and girlfriend - you should be able to ask.
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