Why did he disappear? I haven't heard from him in a week

A female age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Dear friends, I hope you can help me out with my problem, I met a man 2 months ago at some friends house dinner and we started a beautiful friendship, he doesn't live in the same country but visits it quite often almost every month. He's 23 years older than me but we fell for each other then he travelled and we continued being in touch on a daily basis intensively. He told me that he's coming to see me in 3 weeks, and that he's in love and felt the chemistry since day 1. I freaked out and told him that I don't trust men who start the relation too strong cause they fall out as fast. We had 3 squabbles in 3 weeks. Last fight he asked me not to call him or text him cause he was very upset, mostly it happened cause I felt he gave mixed signals but I blew it out of proportion. Anyway I texted him 2 days later and fixed it and he said he loved me and want to be with me. Fast forward he came to visit me and stayed at my place, the plan was to stay together 48 hours till he travels again and connect. We got intimate and I felt he was very in love but since both of us work in media and are well known, I asked him to keep it hush hush till we're sure it's really working and he agreed saying that it might not work and we might not see each other again. Anyway we barely spent time alone, his friends knew he was in town and they invited us out. Then last night we went out with a bunch of his friends who invited 4 ladies whom we don't know and since no one knows we're together, the girls offered to drop him on their way cause he said he was staying in a hotel and not at my place ofcourse and the hotel is on their way. I didn't open my mouth ofcourse but I expected him to at least ask me discretely if that's fine cause it doesn't make any sense to send me back in a cab and he goes back with women he just met. But he didn't. I was very upset and the minute we were leaving the restaurant I told him: babay let's catch a cab and he was like: no they will drop us. I didn't understand why he's insisting so I snapped at him and told him: ur a womanizer I can't believe u, we'll talk at home, go with them. He got so upset, took the cab with me, got to my place and started cursing me badly. I tried to calm him down cause his reaction was overly exaggerated especially that the man almost proposed the night before. He packed and left to the airport. I caalled him no answer. I found out that one of his phones was still in my bag. I texted him and told him to give me his friend's number to send it to him. He did. Ever since nothing. The minute I dropped his phone off to his friend. He sent me a message thanking me and apologizing for the way it ended and asking me to be in contact. I replied the next day and sent him another message that I missed him and it wasn't worth it. He hasn't replied. I sent him a long email few days later to explain. He didn't reply. It's been a week. What do u guys think?

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