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anonymous
writes:Hi sorry if this will be long I am totally in love with my former fwb we met 18 months ago and the first few weeks were amazing he made plans where we going to go for meals and mentioned going on holiday n things like that my daughter met him as he wanted to meet her which I though was a good sign so naturally I thought we were a proper couple then he stopped getting in touch as often it was maybe once a week then it got longer and longer now it has been 5 weeks he hasn't been in touch for and I haven't saw him for 9 this started when he moved 15mins away from me I feel so hurt and upset as.I thought the world of him and so did my daughter I have seen him with his sister a few times in the car he has ignored me obviously his sister doesn't know about me any advice on what I should do I should I text him and see what is going on or should I just ignore him I did ask him before what was going on he said he didn't know he would like to see me now and then and when I mentiones if he would like to see me more a few weeks later he said I do and don't what could this mean thank you
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reader, oldbag +, writes (5 July 2012):
 WellSome men always say things in the first few weeks, they don't mean half of it. He may have wanted more at first, but that clearly changed. I think he probably has a girlfriend or a new FWB now, if he wasn't getting his physical needs met he would be round cos he knows you will oblige. Maybe he thought it was all a bit full-on with you and he only wanted a bit of fun.Who knows but him. Do not get in touch with him, he knows where you are. He ignored you when he saw you,his sister wouldnt have cared less if he waved to you am sure. Just draw a line under it all, its over and done with now. You HAVE to move forward.Focus on you and your daughter, plan days out with other mums, keep yourself busy. At night when she's in bed you need to keep your mind busy, do Open University course, watch TV, cook for friends,anything. But dont be tempted to text that one man. Your not the first woman to have loved and lost, there are millions worldwide who have gone through the same thing,some after years of marriage and children together AND they have let go with dignity and eventually met a new man.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 July 2012):
 5 weeks and nothing from him? Honey you aren't even FWB with this guy...
He's gone and done.
I'm sorry for you and for your daughter...
bit of advice as a formerly single mom of young kids, do not let them meet men you are involved with until you are sure it's serious and long term... it's hard on the kids.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (5 July 2012):
 I'm sorry but I think you should consider this a closed chapter. I wouldn't try to contact him anymore. As much as you liked him, he isn't the guy for you or your daughter.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (5 July 2012):
 You haven't heard from him for 5 weeks? Do you think he may be dating someone else? This might explain why he hasn't given you a straight foward answer or tried to get in touch.
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