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writes: Online dating can be very difficult and if you actually find and meet someone you like makes it even harder.I went out with this guy two times and we both seem to like each other. We had texted and spoke on the phone two weeks prior. I knew he was still checking the site but didn't think too much of it then.Now that we have met and have begun dating in a sense--I am so nervous he will meet someone else. He still checks the site and I know he is free to do so. We just met and we aren't exclusive right now.But I always get a little scared when I see that he went on it at 11:30pm or the morning or afternoon. Or even after we speak on the phone, I notices he sometimes goes on. I will not say anything b/c at this point I don't really have a say. He isn't a bad a guy but just makes me wonder if he will find someone younger, better looking etc. We are both around 28 years old.I never was one to date multiple people to fill my time.How do I deal with this type of anxiety?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012): You need to find out if he is the type to date more than one person at a time. If he is, you need to decide if that is a deal breaker.
Your relationship is so new and lacks communication. You need to stop obsessively checking up on his online activities and actually talk to him about the problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2012): That is unfortunately something one has to deal with on dating sites and you're right, if you're not yet exclusive you have no say in what he does as far as the site is concerned, so don't give off anxiety or desperation vibes because that is not attractive. Enjoy your dates and don't neglect your other interests, make sure you've got something besides him to think about and enjoy. Once you have been dating for a while and it seems right you can ask him if you two are going to be exclusive or he might even ask you first! If you two have decided you are exclusive and he's still on that site wave goodbye to his sorry lame but and find yourself a man with integrity.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (27 June 2012):
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He might be going on the site to check if your still active on there, and you have been on there, to check up on him.
It is early days so keep your options open, dont focus purely on him. Dating is getting to know somebody to see if you want to take it further. No harm in dating someone different 6 nights a week if your not having sex with them. Dating sites are for meeting people, theres plenty of choice in one place.
Be sensible,but just treat it as a bit of fun for now.
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