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*weedy-doll
writes:I been dating this guy for 3 months and things were great between us now that I'm pregnant with his baby he asked me to abort he no longer text me like he used to no calls no nothing and I still love him what should I do please HELP
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reader, newmomofsix  +, writes (24 August 2012):
I am in the same position.At first he couldnt believe we were pregnant,then once it digested we were happy.Then the drinking happened and his friends got involved.He told me to abort also.I didnt.He says she isnt his,then says she is.some days he wants full custody,the next refuses even my offers of visitation.
I have chosen to hide and keep this baby away from him.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (20 July 2012):
 Good for you! I know sometimes it is scary when you think you are facing a major life change by yourself. My sister is a single mom and while she has some tough times, she is doing really good. Have faith in yourself and give your mom a big hug...she deserves it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2012): I know it's hard but you really need to forget about him and move on. He tried to make you abort this baby so do you really think he'd be a good man to help bring up the child? Go to your family for support at this time and one day you'll meet a real man, don't you worry
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (20 July 2012):
 You got pregnant, he doesnt want the baby and has now ran away scared.
He was happy dating you, thinking things were fine and moving along nicely, then all of a sudden you are pregnant and everything has changed. He doesnt want to be a dad, so he has ran away from his responsibilities.
You cant force him to come back I'm afraid, he doesnt want to be a part of this so if you are keeping the baby you have to accept your choice to be a single parent. He has made it crystal clear he doesnt want the child, so you cant force him to do something he doesnt want to do. He will have to be financially responsible for the child, but you cant force him to do any more than that.
Stop thinking about this guy for a while and start to think about YOU and the BABY. Do you want to keep it? How are you going to raise it as a single parent? Have you got enough money to do this? Have you got friends and family to support you?
Give this guy some time to digest the news that he is going to be a father. Worry about yourself for now and see what happens in the future - there is a lot you need to sort out yourself now you are pregnant without worrying about your love life. The baby has to come first now, so put your love life to one side and focus on the baby and what you are going to do next.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, pweedy-doll +, writes (20 July 2012):
pweedy-doll is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys I really appreciate ur support I do wana keep the baby even though I did not plan to have it now just that the guy is been pushing me to abort, one thing I know is that my mom will be able to help me raise the child I think it's high time I tell my family about this,thank you people I did'nt have anyone to talk to.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (20 July 2012):
And yes, I agree with OldBag that this guy is not coming back. I am sorry.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (20 July 2012):
I am sorry too, but please, in the future do not have sex with guys after only 3 months and expect them to stick around. That is way too early to have sex with someone unless you are prepared for it. You were not prepared and now you are pregnant.
If you have a family that cares, please talk with them about this and ask for help. You have other options, but I would start there first. If you can't talk to your family, perhaps there is a trusted friend you could turn to. You do not mention wanting to keep the baby or not, so this is my only advice for now.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (20 July 2012):
 Hi
The obvious question, what birth control did you both use?
He probably didn't sign up for being a dad,especially after only 3 months dating. Fair enough, most men would run especially if he's in your age group. However you BOTH made this baby.Sadly, its the woman left with the pregnancy, I don't think he will come back.
IF your intent on keeping the baby regardless then I think you need to come to terms with the fact you will probably raise the child alone. He MAY, after the shock wears off contact you,time will tell,but he probably feels trapped.
I would leave him for now to consider his options while you consider yours.Then if you go ahead with the pregnancy he has to know and he's to help financially.Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2012): What do YOU think you should do about it? Ultimately its your body, your life, your decision nobody else's, and since he's done a runner it doesn't really matter what he wants...forget about him.
Are you in a good place mentally, financially, and accommodation wise?
And do you have good family and friends around you to support you in what decision you make?
You need to think what's best for you and the unborn child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2012): I am really sorry , sounds like you got a loser. You need to focus on yourself and the baby. Do what you believe is right. Let him go and dont chase him as that will just push him further. Once the baby is born claim support for the child and take it from there.
Its going to be tough but you will survive just remember right now nothing is more important than the baby and you. Goodluck hun.
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reader, AdeleSexy +, writes (20 July 2012):
Baby, I'm so sorry this happened to you.
He is an irresponsable guy. If not now prolly would've left you later...
Very touchy subject though.
It is really up to you what you think is best for you. It depends on so many things. Can u support this baby? Do you have friends and family helping? Depends on how old you are, etc.
I hope he shows up later in your pregnancy feeling all guilty, at least you know he's not a jerk....
Seek a counselor's help
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