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*amanthablax
writes:Is he falling for me?My friend introduced me to this guy, we started talking through facebook for a while then decided to meet for a date. The date went really well, until we slept with each other at the end of the night, big mistake i thought. After that we chatted some more and decided to become friends with benefits, as we both were not looking for anything serious, 5 meets later he tells me he likes me, when i go out with friends he tells me to be careful and be safe, the next day he would message me and ask if i got back ok. What confused me is he said 'love u' then i replied with 'huh?' him: 'i do' me: 'don't be silly' him: 'look how worried you got, am only joking' why would a man say that? He said he would ask me out properly if circumstances wee different, when we meet he asks me questions about myself and is always smiling at me, or touching me (not sexually) but then he will become distant? Is he running scared? I do really like this guy, just not sure of the signs?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2012): Well if he is what you want and you want to make a go of things with him, then you need to be faithful. Just tell him he CAN trust you and that if he wants this opportunity to work then he should trust you. If he makes you feel suffocated that you can't go out because he is unhappy about it, then you will only resent him and you too will be unhappy. As for your feelings fading, I shouldn't think so as long as you keep in regular contact (each day) and don't find yourself straying towards other men because they're more convenient for you.
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reader, samanthablax +, writes (21 July 2012):
samanthablax is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLatest update... I have told this guy i really like him, now he is being deployed for 6 months. He said that he thinks it wouldn't be fair on me to start a new relationship whilst he is away as this is when it should be the best. Since he has been away i have talked to him online, he tells me how it bothers him me going out, meeting others, he tells me he misses me and my smile. will our feelings go after a while? I really like him and want to be with him, i think about him every single day, its driving me crazy
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (14 July 2012):
 The thing is.. what do YOU want? Do you even know if you like him as more then a f-buddy?
If you do tell him you would like to date him, be honest, what do you have to lose?
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reader, oldbag +, writes (14 July 2012):
 Hi
I would just ask him outright, he sees you go out with friends and carry on with your life so thinks you just see him as sex/FWB. If you want more be bold,because I reckon he does want a relationship.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2012): It sounds like he wants to make you a one man woman, by that I mean when you go out and he tells you to be careful and take care, I think he means, don't cop off with another guy because he wants you to be with him, and no doubt if you did hook up with someone else it would hurt his feelings. By the text "I love you" I reckon he was testing you to see how you would react, and because you replied with a confused "Huh" and a dismissive "don't be silly" he kind of felt like an idiot and decided to tell you he was only joking.Same with his behaviour around you, it sounds like he's trying to become closer to you, but then backs off because he gets greeted with cold reactions from you. If you ask me, he's unsure about you not the other way around. He obviously knows what he wants and let's be honest you do too, but you need to be honest with him about what you want... If you know what you want that is. That's the only thing you sound unsure of.
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