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writes:There is something that happened some 5 months ago between a guy and me. We were very good and close friends, so close we ended up being FWB. It was very wrong I know and it turned out bad, as such, since I fell in love with him. While we were FWB he was subsequently dating another girl who was supposed to get married to another guy. She ended her engagement and started a relationship with my FWB guy. I found out about this after all had happened. We ended up as friends and I tried to be a friend then It turned out that I saw them for the first time 5 months ago and I freaked out to the point of insulting him because the girl was not the half as pretty as he told me.He said he was leaving me because she was white and not "colored" as I am and that was the reason he didn't pick me. We are not in speaking terms anymore after that.I think I over reacted and maybe he said all those things in anger after my response. Some times I missed his friendship and I wished things could be like before and talked to him again to at least get that over my chest and depart from him in a friendly way. What would you do in my place?
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reader, HardToExplain  +, writes (2 October 2012):
 Pure and simple, just leave it! I agree with everything Cerberus said. You've just got to learn to move on from this, new people come and go all the time, please don't get hung up on some guy that obviously didn't appreciate you. You're better than that, you'll heal with time. Don't fret about this, just be happy and move on, do whatever makes you smile and don't give this asinine guy any attention whatsoever, okay? You'll be fine :) x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 October 2012):
 I would do nothing..
It's over and done
an FWB can't CHEAT ON YOU btw.. that's the whole point.
YOU like this guy way more than he likes you.. that gives him the power.
walk away... hold your head high and live well...
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reader, oldbag +, writes (2 October 2012):
 Hi
I would do nothing, he has moved on,so must you. You have exchanged insults, the friendship,such as it was, is gone.Put it behind you now.
In future be more selective about who you have sex with, wait until your in a relationship. This man just wanted your body, you need to find a man who sees you as a person, don't settle for anything less.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2012): I would do nothing at all and move on with my life. Or I would tell the racist, cheating dick to go fuck himself.
OP why would you want anything to do with a guy who just dumps you as a friend? Why would you want anything to do with a guy who is knowingly cheated (not on you because you were only FWB's) with another guy's girl? Why would you want anything to do with a guy who used you as a living sex doll and then threw you away? And why the hell would you want anything to do with a guy who uses the colour of your skin against you?
I personally would walk away if I were you because I was then I was the complete idiot in all of this. I let myself get used by a guy, I let myself fall in love with a guy who was in no way interested in me, I then try to excuse his disgusting racist comment because I love him? Yeah, I'd see sense and walk away, and I'd learn never to get into any of those situations ever again with anyone else. You got played, you got used and now he's done with you.
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