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writes:Me and my b/f are both 17 we have dated for 4 months now. so here is my problem My b/f is a popular football player at my school and all the girls are all over him (and I mean all over him). I was not popular till we stared going out. So anyway I asked him if I should be worried and he laughed and kissed me (i did not know wat that meant). Do you think I should be worried ? Help me!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 I sort of agree with the other respondents and think that this is basically your own insecurity talking- the Cinderella syndrome.
BUT- with a proviso.
When people is all over you- you have the power to stop them and to make them back off, if it bothers you or if you think it is inappropriate. If you don't... maybe it does not bother you that much :)
I don't know what shape this " being all over him " takes exactly, but if it's being touchy feely and hugging and fondling a bit too much ....he can , politely but firmly, make them back off. Some times words are not even necessary , body language is enough.
I am thinking , maybe the guy LIKES the attention and laps it up, so ,while this is a forgivable weakness and I would not demonize him for that, he needs to change the way he responds to this attention, and make sure it's in line with the respect it's due to his gf. It's not enough to just laugh and kiss and " don't worry" you.
You can tell him that you are NOT worried, but if you are dating someone you expect him to behave as YOUR bf , not as "everybody's fiance' " , or some teen idol that everybody is free to grope and follow around. It's just a matter of respect and good manners.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (8 October 2012):
 As long as your boyfriend is honest and faithful and is a decent guy who will never disrespect you, you have nothing to worry about. He has never given you any reason to be insecure and YOU are his girlfriend. Not any of the other girls who swoon over him. Enjoy your relationship!
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reader, human_male  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 There's no way of knowing, we can't know his character from your post. He certainly has the opportunity but that doesn't make him more likely to cheat. Unfortunately this is something you should have expected and something you're just going to have to live with. If he's attractive and popular he's going to get attention from other girls. That's just the way it is. I would imagine it's one of the things that drew you to him.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Hi
Out of all those girls he chose to date you, of his own free will.He laughed at your question because he knows this and he can see in you something you obviously can't.Enjoy him,he sounds smitten to me.
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