He doesn't want anymore children and wants me to give this one up for adoption, so what do I choose, being a single mother or giving up my baby?
Q. I need help. Me and my boyfriend of 8 years are expecting again. Unfortunately for me, he doesnt want anymore children. He has expressed this to me before even before our first child, but he knew since I was 11 years younger than him and didnt have ...
A. 13 December 2012: Hi
I agree with 'Iamheretohelpyou'. He needs to have a vasectomy asap and you need to be prepared for the emotional fall out of giving your baby up for adoption.You may well need counselling both before and after.
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LDR of 3 years--she sent me fake photos of herself from porn sites! Why did she lie to me?
Q. I feel like such an idiot. I've been in a long distance relationship for more than three years. I'm in the UK and she's in Australia. We met on the internet, but quickly moved on to talking on the phone, and we'd talk for hours every day. For v...
A. 10 December 2012: Hi
Looks might not be important to you but it would be nice to know who your talking to after 3years.Women change their hair etc all the time so its not unreasonable to ask for a recent one and to offer one of yourself.
You seem to have a g... (read in full...)
LDR of 3 years--she sent me fake photos of herself from porn sites! Why did she lie to me?
Q. I feel like such an idiot. I've been in a long distance relationship for more than three years. I'm in the UK and she's in Australia. We met on the internet, but quickly moved on to talking on the phone, and we'd talk for hours every day. For v...
A. 10 December 2012: Hi
Ofcourse it hurts you have invested alot of yourself in her for 3 years. At least its out there now and you have asked for an explanation.And seen her reaction.
Have you ever seen actual day to day photos of her, the holiday snaps,family do'... (read in full...)
Why would a guy just disappear? What did I do to make him lose interest when he never even got to know me?
Q. I met a guy at a bar a few weekends ago and we ended up making out. I went back to his place but I told him I didn't want to have sex (I'm not opposed to one night stands but I had my period and I don't like having sex until it's over). He was fine ...
A. 9 December 2012: Hi
Maybe he has a girlfriend or a FWB, the call he to his boss could have in fact been a call to THEM to see their availability.
When you rang him he probably thought 'wahey I am in here' and asked you round, but then you said you would *think... (read in full...)
LDR of 3 years--she sent me fake photos of herself from porn sites! Why did she lie to me?
Q. I feel like such an idiot. I've been in a long distance relationship for more than three years. I'm in the UK and she's in Australia. We met on the internet, but quickly moved on to talking on the phone, and we'd talk for hours every day. For v...
A. 9 December 2012: Hi
The money spent on phone calls and presents could have been spent on tickets to visit............. (read in full...)
LDR of 3 years--she sent me fake photos of herself from porn sites! Why did she lie to me?
Q. I feel like such an idiot. I've been in a long distance relationship for more than three years. I'm in the UK and she's in Australia. We met on the internet, but quickly moved on to talking on the phone, and we'd talk for hours every day. For v...
A. 8 December 2012: Hi
Switch off the PC and start to get over her.She isn't what she seems, at least not physically, so has been a fraud really the whole time.What a waste of your time.Surprised you've never seen her via webcam in 3 years too.
Good luck any... (read in full...)
We get on really well, but he said he needs sex, but I'm a virgin?
Q. I just turned 20 a while ago. I'm a virgin. I'm single and always have been. Dated a couple of guys, but things ended horribly and I ended up hurt. Even though I am a virgin, I have done other things, nearly everything that comes before it, su...
A. 8 December 2012: Hi
Well considering all you seem to do is go to his place the whole focus of your dates is sex and your spending all your together time in or near a bed, then its clear you want a physical relationship and sex and your ready
I think you will r... (read in full...)
How can I avoid becoming one of her punching bags at work?
Q. What makes some people fly off the handle so quickly? There is this woman at work. I have heard her get so aggressive so quickly at work. She acts like she has to fight so fiercely over issues that are nothing more than day to day things. So far I ...
A. 8 December 2012: Hi
Just keep your head down,never make eye contact with her and IF she starts on you just walk away, tell your boss. Don't respond to her.
They don't sound like supportive bosses at your place,or maybe they are just used to her.There always... (read in full...)
Why am I so hesitant about having sex with this man? What could be holding me back?
Q. I met this man on an online dating site. The first time we went out he scared me be the way he was over excited to see me. He literally ran towards me to hug me I felt so frightened that I automatically put my hands up. We had talked on the ph...
A. 8 December 2012: Hi
He obviously thought after 3 months of phone calls you were primed and ready to fall into bed when you met.
Your gut is telling you he is way too keen to do just that,somethings off,he's assuming.
Explain clearly you dont sleep with men ... (read in full...)
Is he over his ex wife? I feel like his second best wife, considering his need to still keep pictures of his ex.
Q. Hi could you please give me some advice?? I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and have been really happy. The problem is that recently he has put some old pictures on his pc. These pictures are from years ago of his kids growing up ...
A. 8 December 2012: Hi
Why did they divorce? And why after 5yrs put photos up, where did he get the ones of her naked or in her undies, did he download off a dodgy dating site or had he taken them years ago? I doubt she would be impressed he has them on PC.
Its ... (read in full...)
Did I ruin the relationship, due to my dislike of porn? Or are there bigger issues of concern in this relationship?
Q. Disclaimer: This is long but I really need advice and help. Please! I'm having a hard time letting go of my ex boyfriend. We were together for 20 months and just broke up last Sunday. We were living together the past 2.5 months. He was my first ...
A. 8 December 2012: Hi
I think the fact you were always at home when he was there is enough to drive a person mad. So he watched porn, he reduced it for you,he tried. Explained why he felt he couldn't have sex easily. People hearing you is a big turn off, I think.
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Did he really love me if he got another girl pregnant?
Q. i had a boyfriend for 8 years. while together he got another girl pregnant who is his classmate. did he really love me? he said it was all accident and did not love the girl. added he will just give the girl's request to get them married and later ...
A. 7 December 2012: Hi
No, definately not.
There's more than one man in the world and you need one who does not go and get another girl pregnant,marry her and expect you to wait around till he divorces her.
You deserve better than this treatment
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I love him with all my heart but I cant support a grown man my entire life!
Q. My fiance, my daughter, and I recently moved into our own place. My fiance hasnt held a job since last spring and that was for my dad. He was never brought up with good work ethic and was abused his whole life. He is sweet and caring but him being ...
A. 7 December 2012: Hi
Give him an ultimatum, he gets work,any work, or moves out. You are only responsible for your daughter and yourself.
I would never live with a man like this, let alone have him as a fiancee. I know its hard finding work just now so nobody ca... (read in full...)
I need some help in writing a love message In my gf birthday card.
Q. I need some help in writing a love message In my gf birthday card. We have been together for nearly a year and it's serious. This is her first birthday together with me. So I would like to write a special message, or have some tips. Something's ...
A. 7 December 2012: Hi
Think of a song that says it all for you and write a verse of the lyrics in the card.... (read in full...)
I see him every day but he only texts me once. Am I asking too much?
Q. I'm 43 and have fallen madly in love with this man. He and I have amaizing chemistry and sex. When we are together things are perfect. We get along, joke, play, talk. He is affectionate and loving. The problem lies when we are apart. He calls me ...
A. 6 December 2012: Hi
Why on earth would you want more contact when you see him every night?
I wouldn't even expect one call or text unless it was to ask if I needed anything picking up or to say they'd be late.
I would imagine he has a job and work colleague... (read in full...)
I have liked this woman for three years. She has a boyfriend but I think she likes me. What should I do?
Q. Hi, i cant stop thinking about a women at my work we used to work together, and hang out at tea breaks etc. She has a boyfriend. When I told her I liked her she said she's happy, but one week later asked me out for a drink as friends went out...
A. 6 December 2012: Hi
She has a boyfriend. Simple. She is not available.She is merely a work colleague.
Get out and about, try to meet women who ARE free to have a relationship, for your own sake.... (read in full...)
We break up, we make up, but nothing has changed. What do I do about her?
Q. I have been back with my girlfriend only a week after us breaking up. We broke up because I found she had been registering on dating sites. Not only that but had been engaging in explicit conversation and exchanging photos. At first she denied it ...
A. 6 December 2012: Hi
Well if your attached to her and are not wanting to walk out, then you have to tolerate her abuse till she replaces you.
I think you need counselling if this unhealthy relationship is one you can put up with. She also sounds as though she is... (read in full...)
My sister expects us to spend the same amount of money on her boyfriend's Christmas present, that he has spent on us.
Q. I am looking for some advice on this seasonal problem I am having. My sister has a new boyfriend who is a bit flash, and the other day she came home and said that he has spent approx £40 each on Christmas presents for myself and my other younger ...
A. 5 December 2012: Hi
Yes every year.The thing I like best is when its clear they have put some thought into it.I would rather get a Whoopie Cushion than an expensive item I don't like or need.The presents I still have and love are the ones that were chosen for ME. ... (read in full...)
Is it too much to ask to have my boyfriend with me when I am depressed?
Q. Dear Cupid I have few problems cause of my childhood issues. I go into depression once in a while, most of the time I won't show it to my bf. I just act normally, I'm seeing a psychatraist and taking medicine for it. 2 days back I went into s...
A. 5 December 2012: Hi
Sorry to read that news..Now I agree with S.V.C, you need to see your doctor asap and tell him your in crisis,you need to be looked after in hospital.Do it for you xx... (read in full...)
Is he a player if he's busy on the weekend?
Q. Hi, I just met a lovely guy, he's South American and seems like the perfect guy. He's sweet, attentive, funny, complimentary etc. We met only 3 days ago and slept together on the first night - there was so much chemistry and we were both pretty ...
A. 5 December 2012:
Hi
Well if he wasn't 'sweet,attentive and complimentary' you wouldn't have had sex with him would you?
He probably is busy this weekend,he doesn't need to lie,you've only known each other 3 days. He may have plans for over christmas too,n... (read in full...)
My ex left me for someone else a year ago, and I want him back.
Q. Me and my ex were together for 6yrs and have 2kids. Im 25 he is 27 our relationship went boring and very settled and he left me last year for a 22yr old they only lasted a few months and he went off with many women but I have slept with him ...
A. 4 December 2012: Hi
I think the only way you have the remotest chance of getting him back is to cut contact,stop having sex with him, let him wonder what your doing and let him miss you.
At the moment he has it all his own way, whoever he is with or however ... (read in full...)
I just found my boyfriend on a gay website...
Q. I have just found my boyfriend on a gay website and on a dating website. We have been together for 6 months and we are very close and he's really close with my 2 kids. I have asked him about this and he says he didn't set up the gay 1 and that he ...
A. 4 December 2012: hi
Very odd sounds as though somebody is sh*t stirring here. Its the fact they have YOUR email and have sent photos and a link for a Gay site to you thats worrying.
I don't doubt he is telling the truth at all but at the same time there isn't... (read in full...)
He doesn't want anymore children and wants me to give this one up for adoption, so what do I choose, being a single mother or giving up my baby?
Q. I need help. Me and my boyfriend of 8 years are expecting again. Unfortunately for me, he doesnt want anymore children. He has expressed this to me before even before our first child, but he knew since I was 11 years younger than him and didnt have ...
A. 4 December 2012: Hi
No way can you give up your baby to strangers because HE doesn't want you to keep it.I wouldn't.Its not a box of chocolates its a child,your baby..Is it what you want?
You two need to talk and fast.
Also IF you stay together one of you... (read in full...)
Is it too much to ask to have my boyfriend with me when I am depressed?
Q. Dear Cupid I have few problems cause of my childhood issues. I go into depression once in a while, most of the time I won't show it to my bf. I just act normally, I'm seeing a psychatraist and taking medicine for it. 2 days back I went into s...
A. 4 December 2012: Hi
Its not alot to ask no, but he clearly can't handle it. I think him going to stay with friends and leaving you to it shows that much.
Your NOT alone though,your sister is there.You take medication and are seeing a psychiatrist so ... (read in full...)
After 3 years he still wont move in with me.....
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. He says he loves me and i love him too. Even though weve been through rough patches etc we have always tried to keep strong and make things work. But after 3 years of him being in...
A. 4 December 2012: Hi
He needs to show you he is in this for the long haul, even if you don't live together again yet, an engagement ring would be good. Living together is a huge step but a ring shows he is heading in the right direction.
If you can't wait any l... (read in full...)
My ex and I are cheating on our new partners together, what should I do? Part of me wants to end it with both of them, part of me wants to get back with my ex!
Q. Before anyone says im a slag or idoit or whatever i know i am. Ive been having an affair with my ex behide our new partners backs. The thing is we never really broke up in the first place, we live in different areas of our city now but we would ...
A. 4 December 2012: Hi
This sounds more like a confession than a question. You know it's wrong, you know people will get hurt,you don't need others to tell you that.
You wouldn't want a man who cheats on his woman, so the Ex is out of the question, he can... (read in full...)
I've told him how I feel, and I want to hear his side. What can I do?
Q. I love someone.. I told him how I once felt..it was through a facebook message. it was deep.. i know he prefers in person but as a girl my emotions communicated through paper or a message just seemed to work better for me.. if found myself in my ...
A. 4 December 2012: Hi
Its difficult to decipher your tale, but I gather you opened your heart via a message to him on FB?
If he hasn't responded and you rarely see him in person then I would say he sees you as an old friend. Your message probably took hi... (read in full...)
What kind of Christmas gift should be appropriate for my girlfriend's mom?
Q. my ldr girlfriend offered me to join her and her family for christmas, my question is simple, what kind of gift should be appropiate for her mom ( she has been nice to me, but have only seen her twice ) and for her grandpa ( i havent met him yet, ...
A. 4 December 2012: Hi
Have you asked your girlfriend? Thats best.
I would buy perfume or some sort of gift set for her mum, for shower/bath. As for her Grandad, a scarf n gloves? ... (read in full...)
My 16 year old son is in love with a woman who is 24 years older than him!
Q. My 16 year old son is in love with a woman 24 years older than hisself, he met her when he was in a Subway with friends, he's told me theyve been secretly dating for over a month now and that the relationships not based on sex but proper love. She's ...
A. 3 December 2012: Hi
Have a xmas party, invite your sons friends,male n female and him,also your family, and his woman. Let him see how much older she really is, you and your friends can chat to her about old tv programmes,music , fashions,etc and your son will be ... (read in full...)
My Ex took my daughter to meet his new "friend" and they stayed the night at hers!
Q. Hello. I desperately need to get this off my chest and see what other people thought. my ex has our 4 yr old daughter every other weekend, and yesterday was one of them. Today i found out he took her to London to meet his new "friend" and they stay...
A. 3 December 2012: Hi
I think the only way to solve it, as you are both dating now, is to take it to court and set out access days. Also talk to him calmly about your concerns.
Say if she's in the pub when he is drinking heavily she would be at risk,so ask if h... (read in full...)
15 months after breakup we are still friends. I know I need to end things all together but I'm too weak!
Q. Hi everyone I have been on this site before and had some lovely replies. My partner who I loved deeply end our relationship just over a year ago. I was totally devastated. (we are both mid forties). Then 6 months after the split we started ...
A. 3 December 2012: Hi
Its as bad as sticking pins in your eyes, why on earth put yourself through this pain. One day he will meet somebody else and you can guarantee she will not approve of his meetings with you.She will just know how you feel.
You really ne... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my FWB and cant stand him sleeping with other women, how do I end this once and for all?
Q. Hi i have been having sex with a man who is 36 and im 26 on and off for 2 years now. its been more friends with benefits than anything else, then i found out he had slept with someone else when we had agreed not to sleep with anyone else. stupidly i ...
A. 3 December 2012: Hi
Just delete his number and learn to say/think no. Distract yourself when or if he texts,delete it and go do something,even if its just a shower and doing your nails.
Tell yourself he's no good,its going nowhere and you deserve alot bet... (read in full...)
My husband is spending Christmas in Australia without me!
Q. My husband of a year and 9 months decided to go on hols to Australia for 6 weeks (he only works at peak seasonal times) - i couldn't get off work. He rang at weekend saying he was gonna stay with his mates over christmas and new year. I am totally ...
A. 3 December 2012: Hi
Wow that is so wrong on his part, your his wife not some casual girlfriend. Doesn't matter if he only works seasonally, he either wants to be married and be with you,or he wants to be single and holiday with his friends.He's already had 6 we... (read in full...)
My Ex took my daughter to meet his new "friend" and they stayed the night at hers!
Q. Hello. I desperately need to get this off my chest and see what other people thought. my ex has our 4 yr old daughter every other weekend, and yesterday was one of them. Today i found out he took her to London to meet his new "friend" and they stay...
A. 3 December 2012: Hi
I could understand you being angry if he had left her there overnight,but he was with her so she was safe.
It isn't ideal to meet somebody who he may not be in a long term relationship with, but it seems he can't give up seeing this woma... (read in full...)
I don't want or feel like having sex EVER!! My husband gets grumpy & moody, and keeps dropping hints about sex.
Q. Ok,.. here is the deal,.. and I know I'm not alone here. I don't have a sex drive anymore, I don't want it, don't need it. Of course my other half says he'll be patient,... NOT! About once every month or 2 I'll give in, and even though I'm not in ...
A. 2 December 2012: Hi
Your young to feel like this and to already have your tubes tied.I feel sorry for your husband and for you.
You miss out on the other side of marriage,you don't want the emotional closeness sex brings, so your husband goes without.
How... (read in full...)
What gives girls the right to be angry with men who did not respond to their advances and rejected them in the past?
Q. A little over a month ago I moved back to my hometown after many years of absence. Since returning I have had a few "blast from the past" encounters (in the shape of eye contact and non-verbal communication only, mostly over the frozen chicken isle ...
A. 2 December 2012: Hi
Think your a tad paranoid,peoples lives go on, just as yours did. They probably look at you and think they recognise you,but because you've been away so long probably aren't sure its you.Just say hi to them or nod.
I don't think anyone h... (read in full...)
She is a weak woman who thinks with her heart and not her head. what is wrong with her?
Q. hi i got myself into a tissy and i my conscious is getting the best of me. sometime ago i connected with a woman on a dating site. i didnt tell her i was bi and not divorced and occassionally sleeping with my husband and my man boss. she thinks...
A. 1 December 2012: Hi
At least this woman has a heart which is more than you have.
I would take a loooong hard look at yourself and your life because otherwise in 10-15years you will be alone with nobody wanting you.Thats what happens to people who want their c... (read in full...)
Why is my ex talking to me again?
Q. My ex, now married, is talking to me on a regular basis and telling me what's going on in his life. Is he interested in me again or just want someone to talk to???...
A. 1 December 2012: Hi
He probably feels that you have both moved on enough to enable a friendship. He has a wife and so is unavailable and he will feel you aren't a threat.
You don't have to respond if your not over him or feel uncomfortable though.... (read in full...)
Does saying sorry make you a better person?
Q. Hi everyone, I would really appreciate it if you can share your thoughts on this one... Does saying sorry to someone after saying some hurtful things make you a better person instead of being conceited and ignorant?...
A. 1 December 2012: Hi
Sorry is only good if you mean it,if it shows genuine remorse. Depends what you said and if the person is willing to accept the apology.Its better than not saying sorry though.... (read in full...)
I dumped him because of the dating sites, but he's still on them meeting new people! How do I overcome my anger?
Q. I have broke up from a 2 year relationship. It was my decision. He would not stop visiting datimg sites and always lied to me about it or said he went on them because I nagged him all the time. Now, the same account he said wasnt his is still there ...
A. 30 November 2012: Hi
You shouldn't feel angry, you dumped him, and with good cause. He has only proved that you were right about him by being on the site still.
Clearly he wasn't happy in the relationship or thought he could get away with it till he found so... (read in full...)
We have sex 3 times a week but this isnt enough for me, any suggestions?
Q. I have a very healthy sex life. I loe to explore and try new things. I could have sex several times a day if my partner would let me. I have never had a man turn me down for sex before but my current partner stops me from touching him sometimes. He ...
A. 29 November 2012: Hi
Find a man who has the same sex drive and ability to sustain it. Or ~ buy some toys and use them on the quiet days.Your partner has a different labido,doesn't mean he doesn't want you.So many women would appreciate 3 times a week rather t... (read in full...)
Why do people in relationships play so many games with one another?
Q. Hi, I am a very honest person, in a good way. But i dont believe in lying or sugar coating. (im not an overbearing or rude person at all, i say everything as politely as possible i just know some people dont like it) So i dont understand why ...
A. 29 November 2012: hi
Alot of people don't like the truth, they may say they do but once somethings said and its out there you can't take it back.Hence they have to deal with it.
I prefer to be open,not blunt, but say what am feeling.Games just waste my energy,... (read in full...)
I havent heard from him for 2 weeks and I'm really worried about him!
Q. Hiya everyone, My partner usually calls 2-3 times a week, he doesnt like to text or email if at all possible. but after i last saw him nearly two weeks ago, i havent heard anything from him. ive emailed and texted to make sure he is al...
A. 29 November 2012: Hi
As he won't respond and your concerned,contact one of his family or friends just to ask that.i am sure they won't mind.
If he's fine then at least you will know its the relationship he's taking time out from.... (read in full...)
Should I end our affair in person? Or is a goodbye text enough?
Q. I've decided that even tho I'm hopelessly in love with a guy I've been having an affair with, it's time to end it. He is married, and I know he's never gonna leave her, I'm just tired of holding my emotions inside, and waiting for him to be mine, ...
A. 29 November 2012: Hi
I wouldn't tell him,no texts or phone calls.Just delete and block him. Don't give him any opportunity to talk you round because he will try.
You are going to need to be very strong, you've made the right choice and you know it,to finish it.... (read in full...)
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