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writes:What makes some people fly off the handle so quickly? There is this woman at work. I have heard her get so aggressive so quickly at work. She acts like she has to fight so fiercely over issues that are nothing more than day to day things. So far I have escaped her anger, but I fear it is only a matter of time. hearing her get angry is terrible. I really feel for the people she has slammed verbally. I think she gets taken aside for a talk with her boss but she just does not seem to stop.Any tips so I don't become one of victims?
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (8 December 2012):
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Just keep your head down,never make eye contact with her and IF she starts on you just walk away, tell your boss. Don't respond to her.
They don't sound like supportive bosses at your place,or maybe they are just used to her.There always seems to be one bad apple wherever you work
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 December 2012):
 Do you job and do it good, IF it happens that she goes of on you, take it directly to the boss. Don't stand and take it.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 December 2012):
 What a horrible person to work with. If your workplace is allowing this kind of behavior despite numerous complaints, I'd say they probably aren't a very good place to work! When I worked in a crappy job, the people in it were often bad people even if they were good at their work. When I went to work at one of the best in the industry, the personalities of the people hired improved even faster than the quality of work produced. Your coworker is behaving unbelievably unprofessionally.
If she does yell at you, file a formal complaint against her. With people complaining all the time, I'd have a hard time believing they would allow her to stay. If she does get angry at you, try to just keep your head down and be quiet. Let her vent at you and don't react. I'm certain that if she treats you like dirt, your coworkers will support you afterwards. Sort of a shared unpleasant bonding experience. So while she yells, just remind yourself that that's coming afterwards as motivation to stay calm.
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reader, peteloevely +, writes (8 December 2012):
 you probably won't be able to escape this... who knows why she does it, some people do it to test your character... so the best you can do is not fear her, if you do! then you will become one more of her victims.like you said she flips over little things, so you never know what little thing will upset her, and what are you gone do then?, walk on egg shells the rest of your time to not upset her?Forget it!! Stop dancing to this bullies tune, if speaking with the manager does no work then you are going to have to cover your own back, what does that mean? Standing your ground does not mean you bully her, but that you let her know, you will not be spoken to like that!! You don’t have to take it and to please step away from you, and come back and speak to you when she has calm down and if she doesn’t you are just gone ignore her. if she proceeds to call you names DO NOT get upset! simply tell her with a calm attitude that she would not want you to tell her to stop it, as she will not like to be called names in return and explain what she really is coming across as and emphasize this: ‘’ unlike you I will not be rude, even although i could’’ you don't do it because you know she would not like it.Do not sink to her level and start shouting or name calling, simply keep calm and don’t let the abuse go on.often times when stuff like this happen, people forget that they don’t have to take it and that you can put your foot down! Everyone talks about her behind her back, but no one does anything to stop it. don’t forget you don’t have to be scared of her, and you need to remember to be a mature adult and stay strong.Other ways, get everyone from work to do an intervention and sit together with her, and make her feel like she has made you guys feel… and once she feels completely out number and cornered pick up from there and try to make a friend out of her.Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 December 2012):
 This woman just sounds awful to work with. I guess there is always someone at work who we fear we will get on the wrong side off. There really is nothing that you can do but do your job the best that you can, if it comes to it and she does fly off the handle at you the only thing you can do is report her to your/her boss and show her that she cannot behave like that. You cannot let her walk all over you in the work place.
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