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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I'm 43 and have fallen madly in love with this man. He and I have amaizing chemistry and sex. When we are together things are perfect. We get along, joke, play, talk. He is affectionate and loving. The problem lies when we are apart. He calls me once per day (usually around 3) doesn't text. We do see each other every night, but when we are apart I think of him constantly.From the time I wake up to the time I see him. Why doesn't he think of me? Am I expecting to much from him?
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (6 December 2012):
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Why on earth would you want more contact when you see him every night?
I wouldn't even expect one call or text unless it was to ask if I needed anything picking up or to say they'd be late.
I would imagine he has a job and work colleagues keeping him busy during the day. Plus family, friends etc to catch up with by phone, that he doesn't see every night. So must you.
Just enjoy him as is, he sounds great.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (6 December 2012):
 Yes, you are expecting too much and if you're not careful you'll lose this guy. He's going to feel smothered and he'll soon realise that you haven't got anything else going on in your life.
Seeing each other every night, phoning every day is a lot for any relationship, be it just friends or lovers. You're not giving this man any space whatsoever and you've given him the enormous responsibility of making you happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2012): Yes you are and to be honest you are coming across as needy. Sorry for the crassness I'm not trying to hurt your feelings. Personally I think the
number of times he called should be irrelevant. At 43 I would think you live a pretty active life. Working don't know if you have kids but taking care of them takes an enormous amount of time. If you have friends I'm sure you talk to them on a regular basis. You actually have the time to sit and think of how many times a day he calls. Wow! Either you have excellent time management skills or you have too much time on your hands.
I love my husband dearly. I don't expect him to call me all day long or even more than once. Sometimes he does sometimes he don't. I could care less. I'm too busy to be worried about it.
Enjoy the time you spend with this man. You act as if its one phone call every Mon Wed and Fri! Stop looking at what he don't do and appreciate all the wonderful things he does do. Best of luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 December 2012):
 Yes you are expecting WAY too much.
he calls every day. you spend every night together.
how do you know he doesn't think about you?
because he does not text???? My husband HATES texting. with a passion. So does my brother, and my father. I Know so many men who hate to text (or talk on the phone)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (5 December 2012):
 Let me get this straight, he calls you daily around three, you spend every single night together and you feel that he is not giving you enough? I honestly think you are expecting way to much here. You are getting much more than most people in relationships do or even expect. Okay he never text's but that is probably just because he does not like texting, I know lots of people who are like that, you should be thankful for what you have with him, enjoy it and not look for faults that are not there.
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