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*runchapple
writes:My boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up with me 3 weeks ago and moved to Europe. He called me after three days and within 6 days he came back. I am divorced with kids and he says that although I am the greatest love of my life, he just cannot deal with the amount of time I spend with my kids. He wants me for himself and since he cannot have it, he wants to go and start his own family, keeping me as a lifetime lover. He has been visiting me every two days, basically for sex and until this our relationship has been so much more than that. We had the most rich, passionate relationship--although always rocky. We would "break up" every couple of weeks but get back together in less than a day. This time, it seems for real and I am just not handeling it. We tried to just be friends but it was killing me. Last night I sent him a text telling him that I just couldn't take it anymore that I am not his friend, I am in love with him and that I don't want to hear from him or see him anymore. I'm sure it was the right thing but all I want is for him to miss me so much that he comes back and as my total lover, boyfriend and friend like it was. I have never succeeded to get by without him and the same goes for him. I have no idea how to get through today or any of the one's that follow. I am devastated, sad and feel like an absolute crazy person. Last week, I went out every night with friends and this week I just want to curl up and cry. My friends are sick of hearing it. My family is far away and I miss him and the relationship we had so much.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (19 March 2008):
Do not let anyone hijacked your life and happiness.
Take back control of your life and move on.
Do not let anyone control your free spirit.
You are a whole woman , even if you don't have a man.
You can have happiness for no one can take it from you.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Cute guy, lets see, he doesn't want to share you with your kids. He wants his partner all for himself.So his plan, get another partner, have kids with her AND keep you on the side? So he won't mind if this new partner has to be shared between him and the kids? Whenever she is busy raising his kids he will be with you? If you want a family you have to accept that the kids will suck up a lot of time of your partner (and yourself for that matter). At best he simply doesn't want your kids, at worsed he simply wants another woman (but will be upset when her time is taken up by his kids as well) and you as well.You obviously don't want to settle for being the other woman, but I don't think he is every going to be there fully for you. Any man that does not want to be part of your family will have to accept that he can only get a little bit of your time. You're a mother first after all, ignoring your kids for sex is not really an option I hope.Find a friend with benefits who is okay with a limited amount of time or hope a man comes along who wants the total package. This guy is just a user, I am not going to say you will find anything better, but is he worth the pain? Is he worth ignoring your kids for?
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