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writes:Im scared of my parents, they always freek out because i have a job that doesnt give me much hours and they keep presuring me to look for another job, but they shout at me and oncce my dad nearly turned voilent agains me, i was so scared i ran out of the house and stayed in a friends house for 3 days. Sometimes i wish for me to have a terminal illness to make my parents notice that somethings are more important than a job, like my education, i have imoortant exams coming up soon but they feel i need a job more than good grades. If i was ill they'd realise i have got feelings and that i'm a human being and not a creature who is on this planet to earn money, i want to make sure i have good qualifications and a good job in future, not a job now and live a boring life in future. Does the fact that i hope i had an illness mean im suicidle?Is my parents actions normal?Am i right, or are my parents??
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 It seems odd for parents to think a job at your age to be more important then grades and an education, diploma's are getting more and more important.
What are you studying? I am not to certain about the british education system but wouldn't you still be required to go to school and be dis-qualified from a lot of jobs?
Do they depend on your income? What about their own?
Violence against childeren is beyond excuse, if you feel endangered you should seek help. If violence ever happens go to the police at once and do not go back.
I think you need to talk with someone, like a school counciler, they will listen and might be able to help your parents see reason.
Whatever you do, do not runaway from home without a backup plan. To many teens run to the street in desperation when far better options are available if only they sought out help first.
The illness fantasy is a common enough kid thing, "If I am dead they will all be sorry". It is not being suicidal even though some people do attempt suicide to turn something like that fantasy into reality. That is why suicide is often a last ditch cry for help. But I don't think that applies to you yet.
I can't understand your parents logic, if what you are telling us is the whole story (sorry, but people are known to bend the facts to paint them in the best light) then they got some really screwed up priorities.
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