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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 months, our sex is always the same, it just consists of me giving him head then he fingers me then we have sex. The problem is im not ever having an orgasm and its getting me down, i know i orgasm when i a guy goes down on me, but my boyfriend refuses to everytime, i ask him why he wont but he said he doesnt like the taste and its not just me, its been the same with past girlfriends. Im shaven and bath daily so i know i dont have a problem. So i offerd to get a flaoured lick so it will taste nice but he still refuses. It really upsets me as he begs me to give him blowjobs and please him, i dont really like doing it but i do it becasue i want to please him. When i ask to be pleased its a differnt story. What should i do?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Lazy Guy, you bad guy, now I JUST DON'T WANT THAT HERSHEY BAR!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Sweetheart. Life is about following your heart and doing whats best for you. Dont ever let him pressure you into anything. Do you have family to help you? Maybe talking to them, they could really help u hunny. Good luck lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Hi Hunny
You have just gone of the taste of his little friend simple! He may not like giving oral but he likes to recieve so give your mouth some time off sweetheart...Get a great toy that will give you mind blowing orgasms and think about changing your fella. Or if you do really care about him and this is the only thing that is really getting you down get clitoral stimulating gels and a few toys and make sure he sees them hun, Any man should want to please there woman its what should excite and pleasure him as well, not just pleasing himself and having you do it to, Plus as you like this and can reach a climax then is this going to be the way it is forever as it starts as it goes on usually darling and he may never change his mind TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 You've got some very good advice from previous posters, so I just wanted to add that at this point in the relationship, he's demonstrated what he is willing or not willing to do. My experience is that people start out as they mean to go on. If you are able to live with things as they are, then by all means, continue. But as he's expressed his distaste for the activity, that's not likely to change, and pressuring him into it won't help. People shouldn't be forced into sexual activity that they don't feel comfortable with, that goes for both men and women. It sounds to me that he's happy with the sex as it is, and if you're not, you may need to seriously rethink the future of the relationship.
All the best.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 He sounds like a self-centered asshole who thinks what he does should be good enough or just doesn't care.
He most likely is the same in general, he wants thing his way a lot?
There really isn't much more you can do, you expressed your feelings, he came up with the feeble excuse of taste (like semen tastes that great or his dick is made of chocolate), you already shave so there are no hairs getting in the way. You can easily check on your own taste, if you eat lots of garlic the taste like your sweat is influenced by it.
Some men are just like that, partially brought up by porn in wich cunninglus is extremely rare and women get all they need from a blowjob, a bit of vaginal sex and then the ass followed by a facial.
If it is in the movies it got to be true right? But if he just didn't know, then you have told him so now the only reason is his personality. He just doesn't care.
Oh and Jolie, and all other women, if you have this happen constantly to you then you are dating the wrong men. If he act like a selfish prick, oops confident man who knows what he wants and gets it, then he will be the same way in the bed room.
By allowing it and continuening to date the same kind of men you just telling them they are right after all, if you dump this guy as you should then he will do the exact same thing with the next girl until he finds a woman stupid enough to accept it.
Develop a better taste in men or buy a toy.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (24 March 2008):
 Its easy, just dont do it to him. You cant blame him for not wanting to do that if he really doesnt like it. But if you dont like giving blow jobs!! then dont.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (24 March 2008):
I see two problems here. One is that after only four months sex has become a routine. That is too short a time, I guess. I suppose he's as young and you, and that should make him more willing to "explore different avenues for sexual fulfillment".
The second problem is that his lack of creavitity means you're not getting satisfaction. There's one thing he can do to please you, but he won't do it.
An easy answer could be telling him that you won't give him any oral sex unless he does the same. But that could backfire. He would be aware of what it feels to have sex without pleasure, and what it feel to have a partner that just doesn't care if you orgasm or not; but he would also see it as some battle to decide who has the upper hand.
I suppose a much better thing would be to talk to him and tell him exactly what you have told us, and that he NEEDS to do something about your pleasure. If he doesn't, then you can resort to not giving him any oral. Or to refuse to sex if it won't be pleasurable.
If cunnilingus is something he just won't do, perhaps he can be smart enough to try other things. That would also eliminate the routine lovemaking.
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reader, Jolie  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 He is selfish as most of the men......a man always want to be satisfied! I dont think its fair on you and I can't understand his way!
Don't let him pull you down .....coz soon he'll destroy your self asteam about your body and that definatley not good.
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