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writes:My daughter (13 years) told me something that was very embarrassing for her.what happens if your child has a dream about teacher she doesn't even like as a teacher or fancy.she told me that is was kind of creepy and she doesn't think that she can look at the old guy again (i went to parent's evening and he looked like he was in his early 60's)I don't know what to make of this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Its nothing for you to worry about sweetheart, as Tisha said it was of no help to you it was very rude and offensive...And didnt have any good advise sweetheart we really wanted it removed before you saw it as it would have been very hurtfull for you to read, Somebody being very ignorant hunny if you wish to talk more hunny message me anytime TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Yeah, it's been removed because people voted for it to be. It was basically written that you should let this teacher sleep over, as they believed once your daughter had seen him without clothes on, she would go off him. Other unhelpful, disrespectful advice was given as well.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 The anonymous answer was removed as it was voted off by other readers. The content was essentially potentially hurtful to you and not helpful. It should not have made it onto the message thread in the first place. Don't worry about it at all; it doesn't matter to your situation.
All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat answer was this?
I haven't seen this reply but from what I’ve read it doesn't sound very pleasant.
Would it be possible if someone could tell me precisely what was written...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): To Anon... That's just disgusting. I have no idea who you are, but I'm damn sure that's not the right way to go about things.
I think it's just one of these things you've got to ignore, it probably means nothing. She doesnt necessarily fancy him or anything. I'm surprised she told you to be honest! You guys must have a great relationship, I'm happy for you. Maybe she wants a bit of advice on it from you? Tell her how you feel, or your views on relationships with big age differences.
But honestly, don't think anything of it. Let me tell you this, everyone's had a dream about a teacher at some point :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): That anon answer is just terrible that is the biggest load of crap Ive ever read, Someone out to hurt anothers feeling to benifit there own...My daughter talks to me mate who ever you may be and your a complete f****** moron!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Take no notice of this prize p**** love your daughter is 13yrs old and if she can come to you thats good very good. It means you are an understanding down to earth mum who has the trust of her children. I hope everything works out for you...I HAVE VOTED FOR THIS OFFENCIVE ANSWER TO BE TAKEN OFF!!!!! TAKE CARE HUNNY WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Anon, are you sick. I cant believe that you said those things. No wonder you stayed anon.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (25 March 2008):
Hi,
This is very delicate, but are you sure she is not trying to tell you something without actually saying it. I agree with Mandy and it could be nothing, just her growing up. But all the same, it's unusual that a teenager would admit a dream like that.
I can honestly say if it had happened to me at that age, my parents would have been the last people I would tell. Although you may have a relationship where you tell each other everything. I am just saying be carefull.
Hope its nothing XXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Hi Hunny
As we grow all sorts of strange things happen and our subconscious mind gives off thought pattern that we dont even realise is there..Your daughter as is mine is getting to a age were hormones are changing and different thought patterens are entering...I would put this down to a huge nightmare and tell her so, Its nothing to worry about he may have told her off or said something to her that stuck in her mind and so the dream (nightmare) came about. Really hunny show her this and tell her she has nothing to feel embarrassed about at all...Its all just a part of growing up hunny and this nightmare will fade soon enough YOU TAKE CARE BOTH OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Dreams allow us to deal with things we can't during our waking hours. Just as the body heals from the load put on it when you are awake, the brain has to 'heal'.
Your daughter is growing up sexually and this involves thinking what it will all be like, including different partners. Girls often dream off their fathers or other authority figures, not because they "want" them but because they are the most 'male' males in their enviroment. After all, boys her age are still just boys. He is just an image used by the mind to represent a feeling/concept.
I wouldn't really give it any special attention, just be there for her and answer her questions and try to talk honestly about sex and all that comes with it. Be brutally honest and candid, yes it can be horrifying having to talk about all the stuff you do behind closed doors with a teenager who is half-intrested and half-"Oh yuck you and daddy do that? EWH!" but you don't want your daughter to be one of those girls who ask on this forum "can you get pregnant from swallowing".
Just think back to your own youth and your own feelings at the time.
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reader, Confuddled77 +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Dreams should never be taken literally since they're all about one's subconscious trying to tell you something. The fact that she dreamt about her teacher in that manner probably means that she seeks guidance on something (perhaps from yourself on a sexual nature)but she hasn't gathered the guts to ask you yet.
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