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writes:hi, i was texting this lad that i really like for about 3 weeks he lives about 20 mins away! and on friday i stayed at his and we slept together, and hes not ignored me hes rung me everyday and we have spoke for about and hour a time.im a single mum with a 3 month old little boy, i understand that hes not ready to get involved in my sons life as me and him have only just started seeing each other. now he has been single for a little while now and has got really used to a single life where as he not one to have slept around so i should think he would never cheat on me.his life for the last year has been djing as that is his passion (he wants to become professional), and i accept that.do you think he is capable of starting a strong and long term relationship?xx
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Hi honey,
Well you are jumping the gun a bit. He may well be a lovely guy, but its a massive thing to ask a guy to take on your baby. You dont say how old he is, so I will guess that he is around the same age. I was married to a profesional DJ for 4 years. And a word of warning, girls throw themselves at them, and its very hard to live with. So before you get involved with a man like that, think very carefully. You dont have only your feelings to worry about, there is the baby and the fact he will get attatched to this man.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Whoa, slow down girl.
You are 16, have a kid. Text a guy a couple of times, jump in the sack with him and are now wondering if he is up for a long term relationship?
How old is he? Wanting to be a diskjockey suggests he doesn't even have a steady job yet and you are wondering if he will make a good husband?
Most men just want sex, even if they want to eventually make it long term most are not intrested in getting an instant family. Well you should know this, where is the father of your baby?
The relationship is WAAAAY to short to make an informed opinion about his motives but I would suggest that if you want a guy longterm you keep your legs together a bit longer. At least let him proof that even if he is just after sex he is willing to put in a bit of effort.
He may very well be the best man in the world, but only time will tell and sleeping with him so soon doesn't really help. As Annalisa says, haven't you learned anything from being a teen-mum?
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