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writes:6 or 7 years ago my parents divorced.It wasn't difficult at the start coz' i was too young to understand these things,i was a child.When i was 12,it started to be hard for me.Now i'm 15 and i understand a lot of things about love and family problems.I had a lot of stepmothers but my father kept one (since 4 years).Her and him had a baby (my stepbrother,3 years old).I don't love her and my father changed,he's becoming like her I don't wanna go at my daddy's house anymore,i don't wanna see him....he didn't buy me gifts and for easter i had nothing!!!!! nor chocolate,nor eggs i had nothing for my birthday in 2007 and 2006,and christmas too!!!! It's not the big problem....he didn't pay my maths lessons and school.My stepfather do more things for me than him!I don't wanna go to my daddy's house but i love my little brother,he's only 3 and i can't see him without them!!!!!!! He'll miss me!!!!At my mommy's house,it goes +- well....there's often fights but it's just coz' i'm a teenager.I wanna travel in the world and i asked her to go in England for 2 weeks,in a school.She said no coz' it was too expensive (about $600).Every sunday,my grandma gives me $25 and now i've got more dollars than the cost of the trip.I said that i can pay the trip,but she refused.Maybe it's not a money problem....... i don't know,i asked her she said it's "too expensive"!!!!!! I'm sad coz' i'm a great students and it's been a while that i went in another country for summer.I work hard all of the year,come back with A+ or B every weeks and she didn't want to make me happy???? One of my bestfriends,A.S 'll go to San Francisco for summer vacations,with her mom.She asked me to come with her but my mom said no.I was really sad and angry.To visit the US is my dream........I think teenagers need to have a goal in the year and in their lifes...mine was learn a lot of thnigs this summer in a school,with students from all over the world!!!!!!!!! I talked with a psy and she told to me and my parents that i need to travel,discover new things,and talk English...that's my personality....What can i do for the both problems?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everybody,I saw my little brother yesterday at his school's fancy-fair and he was so happy to see me :)
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 You can't really do anything about either. Just try to accept that parents too can make mistakes. If you really want to continue to see your step-brother then let the neglect just slide of you like water of a duck.
Accept that just because he is your biological father doesn't mean he is going to be a good parent. Focus on your step-father if he is a better dad. By all means visit your step-brother but don't let their neglect ruin that relation. It won't be easy, but you really have little alternative, maybe in future years you can re-concile, but not now.
Your mother is obviously worried about finances, going abroad costs a lot more then just the costs of the trip. She may also think you are just too young. Lets face it, parents are often too protective of girls,but then when you read the number of girls you age that are engaging in threesomes and end up pregnant, can you blame her?
If you were truly a mature girl, you would look at your age and realize that in just few years you can do whatever you want and need nobody's approval. Put the money you saved into the bank and keep saving, couple of years it should be enough to have the best trip in the world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot Waterloo Sunset!
To answer your question,if i say to my father that i don't wanna go to his house anymore,i couldn't see my brother :(
i know him......in fact,i often go to my grandma's house (my dad's mother) and he's jealous...My grandma and 'pa are becoming older,and i wanna pass a lot of time with them before they die...my little brother is only 3,so i don't know what to do!!!!!! maybe when he'll be 15,like me now,and i'll be 27!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): The best thing you can do is wait. Be patient. You are aged 13-15 and your freedom is not that far away, but for now you have to do what your mam says. You are still classed as a junior. I wish someone would invite my kids abroad, i would pay double for them to go, but that isnt the issue right now. Save hard and when you are old enough, over 18 then you take yourself off to all these places that you want to go to. The part about your dad is sad, but all so very true of todays world. Can you not go along and visit for the sake of your little half brother? Maybe just for a couple of hours and just put up with the parents. I know it is so hard for you right now but you are getting older and one day you will be in charge of yourself and that isnt too far away. You sound a great kid and i wish you well.
take care
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