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writes:i've been with my boyfriend for 1 year n half and it went great we were so happy until last night i found out he was seeing this girl twice whilst we were split up (but we knew it wouldnt last long and got back together within a week.) I am so heartbroken and i dont know what to do..stay with him or rid of him? he says she doesnt mean anything to him, it was a drunken mistake so he says and he was feeling depressed at that time. he was really apologtic when i found out. he said he love me and its me he wants.what should i do?
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reader, Cosy +, writes (25 March 2008):
I think you should just talk to him, honestly and frankly..
I know how it feels to mess up like that, and to lose someone you love as a result, talk talk talk..sometimes these things work out and sometimes they don't. What I would give for a chance though :)
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 It ain't the 'cheating' so much as the speed. What was the point of the seperation, to think the relationship over or to have as much sex as possible?
What did you do during that week? vs What did he do. I think it is clear from his action how much he really cared about the relationship.
And of course you love him and that makes it hard to deal with this. Ain't that why you ask compleet strangers for advice because we do NOT look at him through rose-colored glasses?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do love him thats what makes it so hard for me,if i get back with him im worried i will have all this thoughts n worrying about what he getting up to everytime we're apart which i know it aint healthy to have in a relationship,but i ask myself how would i feel if i get back with him? will we be able to get back to normal?
Do you think he seeing someone else while we split up is 'cheating' on me?
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reader, LazyGuy +, writes (25 March 2008):
So he got drunk twice and made the same mistake twice?
Gullible much?
And offcourse he was apologetic, he was caught.
If he truly wishes to claim drunkeness as an excuse get him into rehad now, he was to drunk to be accountable for his actions twice in one week?
Either that or he is lying and just wanted some sex while he had the chance. Next time he thinks he has a chance he will do so again.
Actions count more then words, while you were thinking over your relation he was banging another girl, doesn't that tell you how much he truly loves you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Hi, if you love him and can forgive him for what he did then get back with him, but you have to really forgive him, You wouldn't be able to carry on with him if you are just thinking about what happened. It would make you worry about everytime your apart wondering who he is with wat he is doin. Only get back with him if you can forgive him other wise dont. Hope you are happy what ever you decide x
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Well.
you know i was sorry too when i was drunk.
i mean.. i Technically did run over all those orphans at the bus shelter. but i was Drunk, so.. technically it wasn't me.. It was the Alcohol that did it.. not me. i'm innocent. it was all that sweet sweet liquires fault.
yeah your bf can't be held responcible for having sex with god knows how many women. i mean that sweet evil booze made him do it. and the booze forced itself down his throat.. just like it did with me.
And remember kids, Sarcasm is the lowest form of witt.
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