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anonymous
writes:Me and my boss playd around alot yesterday for the first time. i went down to his house for a coffee which was totally normal because we have always been close and i always come and talk to him about alot of things. we started 2 talk and the topics led to sex / sex toys, He showed me a couple of his / his wifes and asked me if i would like to take a couple down in2 the spare room to try bymiself, when we got down there, he asked if i wanted a hand with it, and i stupidly said ok!! He could tell that i had always been attracted to him because hes my boss, but i never thought he would make any sort of advance on me and if he did it would just be sex but it went on 4 4hours in the end, he said he was going to make me orgasim once for every year of my life, im 18 hes 40.He said it was about teaching me a lesson about getting to know my own body.We didnt have actual intercourse but we used toys in both holes of mine and made me **** / suck his balls and shove sex toys up his bum.He was spankin me so hard i wanted to cry!O m g it was so awkward at work 2day for me, he came up and asked me if my ass was sore and i said yeah! and he said good i wanted it to hurt!! he seems fine but i have to work with his wife as well, and every time i look at him i just imagne everything we did 2gether. i used to look up2 him so much and really respect him. but he was so creepy yesterday, the scary thing is i would be to worried to say no if he wanted2 do it again.it seemed like it was a big creepy fantasy of his !!i did try make him stop at one point but he just held me down and said he was in charge not me.What should i do now??? help
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Sorry I do not beleive this is a true posting.
In the event it is, I would suggest you knew exactly what you were doing and you were either up for it or encouraging it.
Equally it sounds like a males perspective on what occured.
If you are going to behave like a person who is comfortable being treated like this, encourage it and look for opportunities to behave like this with him, then your asking for trouble - which it seems like you have received.
Leave your job and don't behave like an easy tart in the future. If you do then you shall be treated like one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Okay... you actually are scared to LEAVE this twat behind and get a job with a boss who DOESN'T abuse you sexually?
Have it video-taped, send the tape to the wife and keep a copy for cops. Make sure it looks like you don't want it and are being forced.
Then make the formal complaint and get this jackass thrown out of the company if you really don't want to just get the heck out as fast as you can.
Flynn 24
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (24 March 2008):
 It sounds like rape, especially since you said no and he forced you. I suggest speaking with the police about this. Don't be afraid, if nothing else they can give you advice.
Remember, this guy is dangerous. If you do nothing, he controls you and will attempt to do more. You are also a danger to him, he knows he raped you and if you tell his wife his marriage might be in danger and under sexual harassment laws he could be in deep shit as well.
If you do nothing and fires you, you have no leg to stand on.
Yes, you were stupid to go to his house and to accept the initial advances but that is NO excuse against rape.
Report it to the police because if you don't he will attempt it again, if not on you then on someone else. He might also try to get rid of you to stop this from coming out.
If you don't go to the police then at least get out. Out of this job and out of his control. Tell someone close to you about this. This ain't over.
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reader, Sir Chaos  +, writes (24 March 2008):
Annunciate the words..." No more rough sex!".
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): I don't agree that he raped you, since there was no intercourse. what he did is he's into the pain domination thing and when you said stop.....it didn't phase him because there was no 'safe word' established.
Now the problem is this....you'll be fired or terminated with cause once you refuse his advances in the future. I would immediately look for another job and try to avoid him, which I don't think is possible. I feel sorry for you in this situation, but you were a part of this mess. Good luck to you in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): If you just want him off your back, tell the wife. She has no choice but believe you if he used her toys on you......which by the way is very dangerous, never let someone use toys on you that are not verifiably sterile and you don't know where they have been!!! They could very well have been up some other office workers, or his, bum. Yuck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): you are in a scary situation! look for another job. If you are in the u.s.a. sue the company for sexualy harassment, when you told him to stop and he didn't, he raped you......so basically your boss raped you on the job. the scariest part is, if this was your first time, it will only get more violent, he could seriously hurt or even kill you.. he is delusional in the worst way, he honestly thought he was pleasuring you and showing you 'what you really want' based on whatever other sick fantasies play in his head he probably wants to show you other things that 'you really want' and these are based on some very sick things he has learned from watching bad porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Honey, I wish he would have stopped. If you told him to stop, or pushed him off of you and he didn't stop, that is rape, even if you said yes in the beginning. He's being a total creep about it, if you ask me. Yes, some people have dominating fantasies, and as long as both parties are cool, it may not cause a problem, but this time it got way out of control. If I were you I'd steer clear of him, and if push comes to shove, and he starts 'playing' again, get out of there and quit.
It's about your safety and your happiness...BE GOOD TO YOURSELF AND STAY SAFE.
Toasty
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reader, nightstar +, writes (24 March 2008):
I don't know if he thought you were playing when you said stop but HE SHOULD HAVE STOPPED. I know that it is difficult but you have to be assertive and if you don't want to do that again..DONT..because it can spiral and soon you will start doing more things you don't want to. BELIEVE THIS!
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